I understand exactly where you're coming from. While whatever problem we've all got isn't life threatening- it sure takes a toll on our self esteem and social life. The last time I saw a derm was in July, but I have been put on medication for this condition. My derm says my next step should be to see an autoimmune specialist. I have tested negative for lupus etc but she is convinced this is an autoimmune problem. The medicine she put me on is for autoimmune and bc it's working we think we are on the right track.
So, don't give up. There's an answer out there. I don't know about you guys, but I miss making out and my sex life! I'm being completely serious though.