Hi Bgone,
I totally agree with your point about understanding people. I always held myself responsible for my actions and health, and felt a lot of stress because I did things that weren't good for me voluntarily, like overeating or what have you, but no matter what I good stuff I did I got worse. I get it that something was interfering with optimum functionality. I have not only a sense of forgiveness for myself, but also enhanced compassion for others.
best to you.