Re: Need Help to understand and communicate with boyfriend who is very hard to approach!

Ok...lets take a look at some of what you've written. First up:

Me being in the situation I'm in and living in his house, driving his car to get to work, don't feel like I can really push too many issues.

Yes, that can be a problem anytime you've become so dependent on another person. You don't say why you don't have your own car, other than "because of a bad turn of events". So...as long as you are living with him, I assume you are paying half the rent/mortgage, utilities and food bill. If so, are you also chipping in for the gas, maintenance and insurance costs of the car? If you are doing all those things, then, IMO, you shouldn't be afraid to "push too many issues".

Next up:

He has made me feel horrible about my body due to my current issue and instead of being understanding that I am doing all I can... chooses to make me feel like it's my fault and doesn't want to even kiss me. His attitude on everything is... "If you don't like it... leave

Given that you also mention that he is addicted to prescription meds and is also depressed, it's possible that's what explains this behavior. However, it's hard to say---it could well be that he would be like this anyway.

Then you say:

He expects me to be there for him at all times and still show him support and love but rarely does the same in return.

So...not only is he depressed and addicted, he is also very needy and selfish. There is no reason to put up with any of that!

Finally:

When we are getting along... it's amazing.. but when it's bad.... it's REALLY bad.. I really don't know how to talk to him or what to even do. Anyone have any suggestions on what I can do???

You have to ask yourself and do some real soul-searching here --- Is is worth it to put up with all the BS just for the times when you do get along? Only you can answer that but if it were me, then the answer would be "no".

I think you should lay it on the line to him. Tell him that you can't put up with the insensitive, unsupportive, nasty behavior any longer. If you want to try to salvage the relationship, then tell him he needs to get help with his issues. If he refuses, then you have your answer---it's not worth staying with him. Then the next step would be to find another living situation ASAP and move on.

Good luck with everything!


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