Re: If someone was truly a soul mate..

Who invented the idea of soul mates anyway? All our romantic relationships are some combination of attraction and needs. No matter how attracted we might be the relationship won't be sustainable if needs aren't met and common goals aren't shared.

I wasn't sure about my wife at when we were married to put it midly. In fact I was in a massive panic and at one point had to be held back from bolting the door of the Church. She was not the most attractive or glamorous woman I'd been with by a long shot. But we wanted the same things and I knew she'd always be there for me. Plus I always had the written goal of being married when I was 35 - and I was 35.

Our honeymoon was a disaster. I was so completely freaked out I spent the night pacing the hallway of our hotel. And when we all met in the morning for breakfast my wife's eyes were swollen red from crying. Nobody thought our marriage would last a week.

Now we're about to celebrate our 20th anniversary, and if I believed in soulmates she would be it for me. But our soulmate status had to be earned by years of being there for each other, being tolerant and forgiving, wanting and pursuing the same goals, etc etc.

I guess what I'm saying is that special soul mate bonding you're looking for is the result of years of experiencing life together and doesn't just happen with someone you find on the street no matter how attracted you both are. The real love you gain for someone after sharing a life together for years really IS the deepest. Our parents were right as boring as it sounds. Tweet