Re: I need to gently turn away

My original post was made on the wrong page.  I had meant to post on NPD survivors' forum.

She's not N.  She's sociopathic.  Since my o/p, i have learned a great deal more that she has done to me and other acquaintances.  She is so charming, witty, and outgoing that it was difficult to recognize.  The signs were all there:  keeping her "friends" from all meeting one another; keeping her "friends" off balance with third party drama; pretending that each "friend" was a special confidante by making a disclosure that was very, very private; dividing loyalties in business dealings; etc. 

I will certainly let her "win."  I've had a few other experiences lately that sort of prepared me for coping with something like this.  Yeah I'm upset, but i'm more upset with myself for not having listened to that little voice that kept telling me that something wasn't right.  The damage that she has done for other people far exceed what she did to me.  She damaged the reputations of a number of business people by starting and spreading rumors and so forth.

I'm going to be just fine because I didn't really lose anything.  What I believed this person to be was just not really who or what she is.  So, I think I can move on easily.  Its the other people whose reputations and finances have been damaged that are hurting, i think.