Re: Deep into reunion

Molly, I can only imagine. You're having the kind of deep psychological re-birthing that hundreds of thousands of dollars over a lifetime in therapy, or years in a religious cult couldn't approach.

What a beautiful thing, and it couldn't happen to a better person. However do keep in mind that family dynamics can be very complex, and as soon as money and/or jealousy issues arise dynamics can change in heartbeat. Also remember that people are creatures of habit and deeply resistant to change. So with this all these new changes in everyones life it could be at times two step forwards and one step back.

Plus as much joy with being reunited with you as this brings your mother, and on top of that the satisfaction of seeing you turn out a quality intelligent educated uptown woman - there will also be an equal amount of shame and failure that she'll have to deal with in some way.

I'm not trying to dampen your spirits, but just to remind you that it won't always be smooth sailing - and with such intense lifelong emotions on all sides it would be perfectly normal for people to get a bit weird after the initial euphoria wears off. Temporarily retreating back within themselves for a sense of emotional normalcy and to make sense of how they all feel about themselves in this new light.

But soldier on you must - it's all good. In fact it's really wonderful! Just don't be floored by the inevitable ups and downs.





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