Re: Emotional Support for Social Situations

Hi Genie75,

Thanks for your post.

I have been having pain in my left side of and on for the past 10 or so years. I was recently told it is spasms due to IBS which is how I got to this forum.

Several years ago when I was eating a primarily vegetarian diet, quinoa and greens most meals, my pain really acted up. I thought I was eating healthy, and I realize I would have been if I had a healthier digestive system.

For the past couple years I have had a boyfriend who is very active and has a fast metabolism. He eats more carbs than protein which has lead to me eating way more carbs than I normally would. Right after I was told I might be gluten intolerant, he started getting into making bread.

When you wrote how you almost felt like saying the influence of your boyfriends' diet nearly did you in, I felt that I could totally relate to you.

For me, my willpower seems nearly non existent. If there is bread around and I feel like something convenient, I eat it. An interesting thing was my boyfriend made this whole grain bread which was more painful to digest than a white bread baguette, which I liked better anyway. I actually vomited the whole grain bread up in my sleep, which concerned me quite a bit. I never would have thought white flour would be better than whole grain for me.

I am trying to have fun, even be selfish, as I am more used to stressing myself out. This makes for relating better with my boyfriend though things are messier or I am less "productive." I find can be concerned about what "they" will say about a messy room. No one is going to see my messy space, nor does the public matter, yet I find myself concerned about meeting some anonymous persons' expectations about housekeeping or my weight, even though I am dealing with health issues.

In my opinion I think it is an accomplishment that you have dedicated yourself to consumeing what is best for you, rather than caving in to others or old habits. To me that would be quite a feat. Also, you have worked out a situation where your boyfriend is supportive of your unique way of doing things. That is a relationship skill that could bear highlighting.

You probably have heard this, and all these health issues are metaphors and opportunities to grow. It seems like you are doing a great job!

Thanks again for offering the notion of eliminating fiber when it hurts on this site!

All the best to all!
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