That's four things we don't discuss in polite company

...Politics

...Religion

...Gardening...(Because it can lead to fist-fights.)

...Parasites...(Particularly not 'our' parasites!)


Parasites are a taboo subject. People will likely shrink from us if they think we are 'infested' in any way. Maybe we are 'dirty'...or 'catching'.

Although, there is food for thought in the fact that 'we' are doing something about it, and, what are 'you' doing?


Kids get pinworms and head lice in school. Everyone knows. I remember the dear young teacher who had to write me a note that my boy had 'crawlies' in his hair...soon after Hat Day.

Luckily, we were on top of it immediately, and he even liked the few sessions of 'grooming' afterward, where I carefully fanned through his squeaky clean hair, area by area, checking.

It's okay to talk about some ailments, as long as you don't bore folks. In fact, it is helpful for the sufferer to speak about them to at least one close friend, and recieve an understanding ear...perhaps even practical assistance, support.

Here, and perhaps within our families, we can hammer out 'causes', preventions, and (dare I say it?) cures.

But, even so, there are still some areas we cannot talk about...probably for very good reasons.

...We cannot, in good conscience, scare those who are just beginning to understand...who haven't yet experienced the things we are going through, and maybe never will.

...We don't want to expose our private lives, and, most importantly of all,

...Saying so, out loud, makes it more real. We 'label' ourselves, inside and out.


Those who already 'know', however, keep us on the right path, holding our hands when we need that, and encouraging us...when we need that...and glorying with us when we come out the other side...when we win.


Our greatest achievement is, I think, noticing improvements, and focusing only on those.

Our imaginations are wonderful things, but we had better use them only for happy creations...for creators they are. Even the very words we think within our heads create pictures. These set our paths. If we see ourselves healthy, immune, then that's the path we'll take. That's the only path we'll take time for. Anything else is short of the mark.

We get more of what we 'intend', and 'intend' all the time. Why? Because that's all we notice. We can be selective.

Fear, worry and doubt are wastes of time and energy.


A pal was rheumatic all her life, but she kept herself well and active.

When she was pregnant, and on her own, she kept on the straight and narrow. She and her lady doctor did everything logical they could, together.

Then one day Yvonne phoned me, to say that doctor, today, had told her there was a good percentage chance that she would have a live birth.

I was pleased to hear it. I was proud of this young woman who was a good lawyer, walked every day, dry-walled her own house, and wanted this baby very, very much...on her own or not.

When she was mentioning her remaining concerns for her pregnancy, I said, "You are on a track. You are doing everything right. Whatever is going to happen, will happen. Doubting, worrying, isn't going to do anything but make you feel bad, when you could be feeling just fine all the while, proud of yourself."

Don't know if she worried anymore, but she had a beautiful baby, and managed very well.

I mean, I should talk. I have been so far down in the dumps that I could have stayed there.

I longed for someone to take the responsibility off my shoulders, to make me better..now, please.

Even 'research' didn't help. The more I read, the more confused I became. But, repetition came to my rescue.

When I was eighteen, I worked as a clerk in a dental supply house. One lunch hour I got my hands on an oral surgery book, with pictures. Big mistake. I was horrified.

But, eventually I came out the other side...I lost my horror.

Again and again this has happened...I get thoroughly scared, and then I lose my fear. NOT from 'doing' anything, but as a natural function of my feelings. I get over it...but I only get over the 'bad' feelings..the 'good' stay with me forever...are even built upon.

So, when I feel down now, I remember...this will pass. What can I do/think that I like?

How can we break the 'taboo'?

I think by looking at only what is better, what we prefer...and practicing.

You ever know a good person who was always ready with a smile, a good word, a helping hand?

I'll bet you my bottom dollar that they do that even when they are tired...even when they haven't a clue what to try next. Why?

...Because they know that's the only way that works.

Maybe someone taught them, or was a good example...or they sensed it, or learned by experience...the best way is with a smile...no matter what.

One of the things Jose Silva suggests is to draw a bulletproof glass between you and any picture in your mind's eye that you don't like. That bit of glass has helped me many times. 'No', is a good word, and 'cancel', and even 'applesauce'.

Read Jose Silva, you'll like at least some of the things he suggests.

The other day a 'realist' was saying that some people will get well when they had only been given a 'placebo'...that 'energy healing' wasn't 'real'.

:D

Does that make you smile?

If their pill was a dud, then what actually healed them? Their own energy, I think...the picture of being well. It can't have been anything else...except magic.

Even then, the magic came from within, or through whatever is within.

When these things keep happening, over and over, we eventually 'get it'...we are better connected to what is better, than to anything else. We are even BORN immune...and worry-free.

One of the most helpless infants on this planet, and a baby doesn't even know to worry??? Oh boy...we'd better teach him, quick!

Who says we are the smartest species?

If we are unafraid, then we can smile no matter what. We can take everything more lightly, and maybe it will be okay, after all.

No use feeling 'bad' if we don't have to...and there's a lot of good in expecting the best...in enjoying the best we have today.

F.