Re: Another Perspective Regarding Your Friendship

Thanks for your perspective. I did call her on her birthday last month and got her voice mail. She--and even she herself admits this--tends to sometimes go weeks without returning friends' calls, even when things are going well for her. She even told me not to take it personally when she does this. For example, I didn't hear from her for a month a while back and assumed it was because the fiance was on leave. She finally called and told me that he didn't get any leave. When she gets in these phases when she doesn't return calls, I will leave messages and ask if she is ok. I haven't done that this time. However, when I called on her birthday I told her she can call anytime she wants. She knows when I say that, I mean it.

Yes, she has been a good friend. Our daughter put us through hell a couple of years ago and my friend was there for us. We also share some common interests.

As I mentioned, she was planning to visit her cousin. If she is there, she, no doubt is making it her priority to spend her time with her cousin. At this point, I'll leave it up to her when she feels like talking. Most likely my worries about having a long-term guest will come to naught. She doesn't like the fact that the ex lives in the neighborhood...