Re: I would like some help and or insight on being married, newly married and one particular situation please.

"My question is: Was he always like this, or is this withdrawal pattern recent, maybe since he came home from deployment? Has he been to Iraq?"

Well it's gotten more noticeable since he came back from Afghanistan. I mean he's not overly aggressive or anything, just withdrawn a bit more. yea he's got a bit of a temper but he's always had that, and it's never physically violent. he doesn't yell with ill intent nor does he purposely get angry, especially at me.

"If this withdrawal is something new in your relationship, I would wonder how the service and deployment has affected him. Does he talk about his experiences while he's away?"

he's told me stories of what had happened while he was in Afghanistan, but they are far and few between, definitely a sensitive subject. most of the time it feels taboo to talk about it, which i can understand because honestly i wouldn't want to talk about killing people and being shot at daily.


So tonight i'm planning to have dinner with him at the table and perhaps sitting on the couch listening to some nice music, and hopefully i can coax him into a talk. even if its short. it's a step forward i'm hoping. thank you for responding :) this helps me a lot, and i don't know a lot of others here that i could talk with honestly about this.

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