I've had a lot of time to ponder the question but every time I think I am close to an answer or solution, I end up right back where I started worried about him, wondering if he is okay, maybe you are right maybe it's some low self-esteem going on and maybe it's the fact that I try to help those who ask for my help even whenit's hopeless, I keep thinking things will turn around for him but who knows, I can't waste my life wanting or failing to help him fix his, I know what I have to do, the only problem is actually doing it!!!