Re-incarnation
Every night you sleep, and the next morning you wake up. If you had an argument with your friend yesterday, you will still have the consequences of that argument to face when you wake up. They don't disappear because you went to sleep. You will still be responsible tomorrow for what you did today.
Re-incarnation is just like that. What you create will be there for you to face in your next life if you don't take care of it in this one, just like the consequences that you create today will be waiting for you tomorrow if you don't take care of them before you go to bed. You are always responsible for what you do, and your responsibility cannot be assumed by anyone else.
When you die, you don't go to sleep. You go home, and you are very much awake. You are also a much larger you than you are now. That is your soul. The consequences that you created, but didn't experience before you died, do not disappear. They are waiting for you. You may think that you do not want to deal with them, but your larger you - your soul - does. In fact, it creates another lifetime just to do that.
Once you start to look at things this way, you begin to do things differently. You treat people the way that you would like to be treated yourself. That is the Golden Rule. You don't have to be a Christian to appreciate the Golden Rule. Billions of Hindus and Buddhists, who believe in re-incarnation, understand exactly what it means.
Reincarnation is a compassionate way of learning responsibility. You do not suffer for eternity because you do the wrong thing once, or twice, or even time after time. It is not possible to do a wrong thing. You do what you do, and you experience the consequences of it. It's that simple. If you don't experience those consequences before you die, your soul creates another life so that you can. That is re-incarnation.
Individuality - not personality
What incarnates is another aspect of the same individuality, not the same personality. If you visualise man as an individual, who in his earthly life is like an iceberg in which you have one small portion manifesting and the larger portion not manifesting, then that is the end of one incarnation. In a successive incarnation, a portion of the submerged self will come into the world of matter, two different personalities, but one individual. And in spirit life, as progression takes place, it is part of the submerged self that comes to the surface all the time.
Evolution of the Soul
Eventually, you begin to treat other people the way that you want to be treated. That means you change in big ways. You put yourself in your brother's shoes before you speak or act. You let yourself feel your sister's pain. You become more tender and caring. You also become more wise.
Maybe you will make those big changes in this lifetime. You can, if you want to. Maybe you will take many lifetimes. Sooner or later, you will make them. When you become completely loving and kind - without fear and without thought of harming others - you graduate from the Earth school.
That is when reincarnation ends.
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