Advice for my situation?

Hi... My name is Jill. I've been on the pill for about 10 years. I'm 32 and can not afford to get pregnant, but I also don't think I can afford to stay on the pill. I didn't realize that the pill could be the cause of my trouble with sex. My husband and I have been to sex therapists and counselors and anyone that could help with my complete lack of sex drive. I love my husband more than anything but if it were up to me we would never have sex. When we do have it, I try to go to another place to get through it or I have to put on a show. I'm not sure a marriage can handle this for too long. He tries not to blame me, but I know he is frustrated with me and the situation. I get frustrated with him because sex is always about him, and yet if it were up to me I wouldn't really want it in the first place. Could this be the effects of BC? And if so, what are our other options? As I said, I cannot afford to get pregnant. I think I'm allergic to something in condoms and I don't want to take the chance with an IUD. Any thoughts from anyone out there who might understand?