You're on the verge of losing yourself.

You need to listen and listen closely. One guy to another. I'm going to say it straight, then back off and explain so stay with it even I bust your balls along the way. In any marriage, your wife's problems are your problems. No getting around that. But some women will take you down with them while they work out their inner demons. That's what she's doing to you right now. You think you're being the "good husband" by letting her kick you in the genitalia once in a while? You think it's part of the process? You're about to become the classic enabler right before her very eyes. You don't want that, no guy wants to play second fiddle to his wife in every area of marriage. She's got major problems and maybe, just maybe you've got to force her hand.

I don't allow other people, wife or son or family members, to transfer their woes to me as my own! I'll help them, you bet. Nobody works harder to make life good for my family than I do. That's my number one priority. But they have learned that the Mtnnn Mannn is not one to lay a guilt-trip upon. Never works. Your wife is probably going to cause great pain in your personal life with the anxieties, with the finger-pointing, with the anger towards you. Reasons mean very little at this point. I'm a "scorched earth" personality. I like things black & white. Makes life much more livable. Your bride either gets her act together and starts treating you like the man you are, or she pays a price. No way are you going to be put down or blamed for her losing love for you. You've got to call her hand. Can you do that? I don't know, who knows but you. The guy you are, the guy you've always liked...that guy is vanishing. It's up to you and only you to rescue yourself from a drowning woman who will, in all actuality, pull you down with her. That's what drowning victims do when the rescuer jumps in to save without regard to their own safety. They both sink. I know she's your wife we're talking about here...that's why you've got to think with your head, not your heart. It's tough. Many guys drown. Maybe it's time to sit her down and have a one-on-one reality session about the things YOU NEED to be happy with her! This is no way to live out the rest of your life. Better you know now than when you're 52 and out of choices.