Beth

Dear Beth,

I am not exactly sure right now how much I will be able to help you, but I will try my best - hopefully together we can figure this out. ALso, I wanted to send you a big (((HUG))) :-)

I just got home from work and looked into my book "The astonishing power of emotions" but abuse/molestation was not in there as an example. I was hoping I could write out what Abraham advised in that situation.

I want to tell you that you can be very proud of how far you have come, having realized that the way you had been living your life up until two years ago was not what you wanted or deserved. You deserve the BEST, we all do. Congrats on having been sober for the past two years :-)

I know in any situation we need to seek relief from how we presently feel to get into alignment with source. I think once One is in alignment, One KNOWS how everything is supposed to be. One will know what a healthy loving relationship will feel like, One will be able to envision it and feel it and attract it.

So I think you need to work your way up on the emotional guidance scale - do you agree? Like I said, I am not sure, I am no expert like Maya, but from what I know so far, this is how I view this.

How do you feel right now? Where do you find yourself on the emotional guidance scale?
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Here is a post I replied to a while back, which I think will be helpful to you as you can replace Lady Sunshine's situation with yours somewhat:


//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1079730#i

I'm back :-)

OK, so this is the emotional guidance scale:

1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom?Love?Appreciation
2. Passion
3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
4. Positive Expectation/Belief
5. Optimism
6. Hopefulness
7. Contentment
8. Boredom
9. Pessimism
10. Frustration/Irritation?Impatience
11. Overwhelment
12. Disappointment
13. Doubt
14. Worry
15. Blame
16. Discouragement
17. Anger
18. Revenge
19. Hatred
20. Jealousy
21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

Lady Sunshine, as you can see you have already started moving UP on the emotional guidance scale.

You used to be at #22 = Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness before you left this abusive relationship for good. You have moved up tp #19 = Hatred and 18 = Revenge. These are normal feelings and the only important thing is to keep moving UP. Right now you have thoughts such as
- I hate this man for what he did to me
- I want to get back at him and wish he would have to go through what he put me
through
Look for a better feeling thought, remember it is just about RELIEF from your current feelings. Little steps to make you feel better. So you could think
- I am angry that I stayed this long before leaving him (better)
- It's his fault that I wasted so much time (better)
- I worry if I will ever get over this (better)
- I doubt if I will ever feel better (better)
- I am disappointed that it took this long for me to leave (better)
- I feel overwhelmed and don't know where to start to move on with my life (better)
- It is so frustrating (better)
You get the drift. If a thought comes to mind that doesn't feel better keep lokoing for another that does. You may stop where you feel overwhelmt or frustrated for a little while. It is way better feeling thatn hatred and thus gives RELIEF and you can continue tomorrow to move on up further or when you feel ready. Such as
- I am content I will manage, others have gone through this and made it (better)
- I am hopeful to make peace with what happened and move on with my life, my ex was
not born a bad person but something made him this way (better)
- I know I will be fine/optimism and I hope my ex will get help(better)
- I still have my whole life ahead and it will be good (better)
- I am happy that I have left and I am looking forward to a new life(better)
- I feel free and appreciate all the good in my life, like my wonderful child
who I love with all my heart, God bless my ex, I forgive him and I wish him
well

You may chose different thoughts, as these are just examples. I looked at my book, but there was no example of abuse, so I wrote this out myself.

I hope this helps :-)