Re: why does the overall end result ..
The problem with forcing anything is that you are not allowing. Manifestation is a natural result of being in harmony, or alignment, with what it is you desire to experience. The more you focus your attention and efforts on being and living the truth of who and what you are, the more you will see your desires manifesting in your life. As you strive to stay in your truth, your desires, thoughts, feelings, and actions will naturally work together to create in your life what is supportive of who you are.
Gratitude is also a key factor. We must be grateful for what we have already created and for what is in process. Sometimes, we want things to change so badly that we actually bind ourselves to our current situation. "What we resist, persists." What ever we have created in our lives, we created for our benefit, to learn and grow. Once we accept and give thanks for what already is, we can move on to create a different experience. Moving on has to be with love, acceptance, and gratitude.
There are so many other factors that may be interfering with what you are trying to create. My web site is full of articles and other resources that may be helpful to you.
http://www.Journey2Happiness.com