Re: Any advice on friend-making?

Hey sweetie, I feel ya on this one as a person also recently separated from her man and family and everything. (Military wife, don't'cha know.) SO, what I've been doing to fill in is get involved in groups. There are several Meet In Honolulu groups - go to meetup.com and search by city and join all groups that share an interest. Then you can hang out in groups for a while and let friendships naturally form.

Advice #2: don't feel hurt if someone who you thought you connected with won't take the aquaintence further into a friendship, for whatever reason. I've had this happen many times - not everyone is in a position where they're including new friends. For example, I have a work "friend" who seemed hurt when I implied something along the lines of her not being a friend, and indeed at work we are and I know she's alone at home but for some reason she still will not make arrangements to hang out after work. She was there for me when I needed help with my car, just like a friend. Hmm. Well, I don't know, that's something going on with her. On a similar note, at times I am ready to hang out and at times I make almost to no time for it. In my case, often my husband and I will have only half the year together, so it's feast or famine. He's going to be gone for 2 months, I'm not going to hang with the girls on our last 2 weeks together. That sort of thing. People are dealing with stuff and it's easy to take it personally when looking for a closer connection. It can help to remember that it's not personal, either the situation is ripe for a full-out friendship or some fraction of that or none.

Take care, good luck!

p.s. if you're in honolulu,we can hang! ;-)