Re: is my child Indigo.

He sounds a lot like me when I was a child, and also a lot like my son. The approach my parents took, particularly my mother, was to talk to me and relate to me like I was an adult. I also have always had the type of memory your son seems to have, and I've had the unexplainable 'spooky' experiences too. It's very important that you don't create an atmosphere of fear around these things, and that you never give him the message that it's wrong or crazy - or as I used to be told, that it's all in his head. I also think that becoming involved in a power struggle with him will ultimately harm your future (and present) relationship with him. He is obviously a very gifted child - and he obviously has abilities and behaviour patterns that are consistent with what is referred to as 'indigo' children. I really prefer to drop that whole 'indigo' label if I can and focus on the individual child. Some children are different, and need to be handled differently. It will probably take you trying a number of different approaches before you hit on the one that works.

My son is 12 now, in the past he's been diagnosed with ADHD, with depresssion.... I had him quite young (I was almost 19), and he was a REAL handful while I was still trying the conventional ways of 'keeping him in check'. We used to have horrendous stand-offs, with yelling and tantrums (from both of us I'm ashamed to say), and I still carry a lot of guilt and pain at the way I used to handle (or not handle) him. I just didnt know what to do - I took his bad behaviour personally, I was locked in a constant battle of wills with him. I was angry and defensive because I knew that it reflected on my abilities as a parent. He would always look me in the eye and stand right up to me, no matter what punishment I dished out, he never backed down.

It took years of trying different approaches for me to discover that when I talk to him like an adult - when I treat what he has to say as important - because it IS important - your sons thoughts and feelings and ideas are no less important to him than yours are to you - I saw a complete change in my son. I almost still cant believe it. I used to fear for him, for what he would become, I used to be livid that he was wasting his talents and abilities by getting into trouble at school all the time, but now I have no fears. I'm really excited for him because he has his whole life ahead of him and I have no doubts anymore, he's going to be just fine.

There's a lot of information online about how to approach the difficulties parents of children like these encounter. And it's good to see more people posting on this forum at last. So I'd say start here, read what's on this site and then do a few searches. As I've mentioned before in other posts, I'm up to my eyes in exams right now but I have collected a number of articles and interesting links which I will probably put into a blog when I get a little time.

I wish you the best of luck with your son, you are very lucky to have such an exceptional child.
All the best,

Mel