Re: To justify a person's defensive conscience is enabling their future evil deeds.

I understand.
Sometimes, if the person is unwilling to accept responsiblility of their actions, unwilling to admit and break down and see eye to eye, then of course there can be a definate gap there. Sometimes it does not pay to cast your pearls before swine. You are right.





Another thought....


If then this situation is real, then the victim has to find other ways to heal, and this is where it gets tricky...then he/she is no longer the victim with healing and growth, and the Creator's power,love & guidance.
1) once this person has healed enough to forgive in order to "let go" if they have it in them, then no longer do they think about this person but draw their support from others and "God".
2) label this person as unwilling, unfit, unworthy and the harm they did was too much, so keeping the person out of their life entirely could be the choice.

Often times when abuse happens from loved ones it is hard to dis communicate.
This is a great test.

In a religious context forgiveness kind of goes like this in a nutshell:

If a person wronged "God" ( His commands and prohibitions ) then the person asks for forgiveness in private, seeks not to do it again and repents.

If a person harms another person then the person wronged needs to be able to forgive the aggressor ( who must be repentant, vowing not to do it again, sincerely remorseful, and honest )Now once the wronged has forgiven the one who harmed, then it is between him and his "Lord".

These are the clear cut paths.

Other cases I am not familiar with. ON the one hand its good to pardon the enemy, on the other that does not mean you love them, nor do they deserve any love.
So it may sound harsh to never forgive, but that has to do with the aggressors nature not the victims. Somethings are black and some things are white. Some people are good, some people are bad. "God" does not ask us to adhere to the one who has no intention of good will, but says its better to pardon them but to rely on Him.

I think-and of course I could be wrong.

There are alot of people who keep dates of certain groups of people who have harmed their people and this fuels hatred and war. The better way is to let by gone's be just that- gone and done. Or you risk falling into the trap of everlasting anger.
When you see someone lash out in anger, sometimes ( not all of course ) its because of not having any peace in their heart, they are too occupied with things that other people have done or haven't done in the past, either to them or to thier tribe or family or even as a nation as a whole. Its better to pardon and put all trust and faith in the Source of all peace. IM not saying its easy, nothing worth while is easy.

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