Lonelydaisy...so sorry that you are feeling this bad....I think when you are feel so low it clouds everything. So the past was bad...the futures going to be bad...everyone around is horrible and you are horrible...it's all horrible. The minute you begin to feel a bit better, the past does not seem that bad and there is hope for the future.

I just wanted you to know that I know people in relationships who are so lonely...I don't think there is anything more lonely then being in a relationship when it's over but the two people are scared to leave because they fear being on there own and I think there is more people out there then you think like that. Some people achieve everything they set out to in life and it still does not make them happy because whilst they have been busy achieving everything they have lost the time to sit and stare, they may even have been running away from sitting and staring but this I think is how some people avoid. I know someone who looked like they had the most successful life from the out side, they were a doctor helping people, at the top of their profession...or they where until a couple of years ago when they had a break down and realised that they had wasted most of their life being what their father wanted them to be rather then what they wanted to be. They are now happier training in a job that pays less, with less status but which is more them, they are on their right path. The key is that they have found self acceptance...not needing their father’s approval or anyone else as much as they once did. For some people the achievement is finding happiness...I know it sounds mad but I have seen people miserable with everything and some people happy with nothing. It's different though if you are not on your path and you are wasting your days and your life in this way, this is sacrilege to your soul!


I am wondering why you do not have people around you...if you want this so much...is this a way of protecting your self choosing the pain of loneliness over the fear of rejection...I am not condemning that because I think we all do that to varying degrees at different times in life and the more hurt we have been the more likely we are do it. Love is an antidote to fear...it's hard to be frightened when you are full of love...I think finding love and self acceptance will draw the people you want to you....though I know that this is easier said then done!

I am sending you heart felt love...Best Thoughts Moonie

Hi Daisy,

I like the statement that you just made...acknowledging how successful you (and others) have been in surviving and staying alive despite how you feel. That is quite a magnanimous accomplishment considering a lot of people who felt that way actually DID end their lives ( for whatever reason.. not for me to judge).

The only criterion to be a "success in living" is being ALIVE. That means you are "living" no matter WHAT that looks like. At least that is what Darwin said.
"Survival of the Fittest". The ones that have "survived" ( literally too) are the ones that are fit enough to realize they are worth something to remain staying alive.

I remember reading somewhere that a suicide counselor would listen to people who were considering ending their lives and at the end... the counselor would always ask the same question:

"So... why are you still living, then"? I got the feeling that she wasn't asking it in a sarcastic way but in a sincere way... really wanting to get to the bottom of WHY they were still alive if they felt THAT bad.

That would always be the turning point. The person would end up listing one, two.. then a LOT of reasons as to why they were alive... and then.. in the end, they pretty much answered the question for themselves as to why life was worth living.

Maybe you could list here ( if u want to) some reasons as to why you choose to remain alive. That could be a good start for some meaningful support.

I think everyone has felt the way you do, in some time in their lives... the world always dangles a carrot in front of us ... and when we obtain it, then the media is always telling us that it simply is not good enough.. and we are inundated by messages from left and right telling us what we SHOULD be..

It takes a special pair of eyes to see through all the lies and it takes all the will one can muster sometimes to say

HEY! I'm just fine the way I AM!

include in the list all the things that you

1. enjoy
2. want to experience e.g. traveling , scuba diving etc. ( unless you already do that)
3. wish to do for others


see how long and creative you can get with that list