I don't even know where to start this. I'm so codependent on a friend that it is ruining my life. Make a long story short-I grew up in a very dysfunctional family, dad was never around until about age 13, mom left me when I was 6 wks old and I was raised by my great grandmother. I spent my entire life trying to make them (mom and dad) happy. Over the years, I haven't spoken to my dad in 12 years and my mom for 2. But, I've developed what I thought was a wonderful friendship. Trouble is I'm almost obsessed with it. (not gay or anything). I spent more on her last year for christmas than I did on my entire family, i've bought and paid for her a trip to Las Vegas, Myrtle Beach and now a trip on a cruise to bahamas, air fare and all. That's really just the beginning. I'm afraid if I don't do things for her that she won't have anything to do with me. I quit my full time job, with benefits, to give it to her. Trouble is, she can't do the job. I've been doing her job and my job for 3 years now. She gets all the benefits, I get nothing. I drop everything I'm doing at any moment for her. She has another friend who as treated her like crap and she does things for her. She very rarely does anything at all for me, maybe buy my lunch 1x per month or something like that. I don't know, I love her to death but I'm not sure what to do. I just found out that her daughter, who I adore, just blatently lied to me about being with the other friend. Good Lord. Who cares what she does. I just don't like being lied to. But, am I smothering her so much that she has to lie to me? I'm so confused. Any help will be greatly appreciated!!