No you are not alone.

My mother has passed so there is no phone line. I loved her very much and Here's what I can say from my experience, clean it up before they go-you're likely to meet them again in another realm.

If not another realm posts like this that show you know that there is pain and you do not want anymore but also want to mend.

Since it was Mother's Day traditionally it is your call, but certainly she could call- she may also know that you would call if you wanted to talk to her!
If she is interested in gifts then I would'nt feel to bad about not buying one, I think most mom's, not all, aren't interested in gifts as much as haring from you

And sometimes it is perfectly acceptable to take a break

because she died at age 61 some six years ago.

find a way to relate to her and maintain your own well being.

Well let me just add my 2 cents, 17975. Your mother...regardless of your faults
or her faults...brought you in to this world. If it were not for HER...you wouldn't
even exist....RIGHT??? :-)

I was blessed with exceptionally kind, and loving parents. But like any mom...my
mom could be a pain in the neck. I'm now 60...our youngest is a daughter and she's
33...and I'm sure she'd say "I'm" a pain in the neck at times. But I loved my
mom (she passed away in 2003) and I know our daughter loves me.
So I was and am...really, really blessed. And I can understand how hard it would
be if you had a mom who really wasn't a good mom...or who was mean and cranky...
but STILL...it was Mother's Day and the ball was in YOUR court. I absolutely DO
believe you should have contacted her in some way.

I think even NOW...you should send her a balloon bouquet...with a nice note...if
you can afford it...and say you're sorry you missed Mother's Day and you hope you
two can work out your differences. Or even send her a card and say the same thing...

We watch Survivor faithfully....and one of the finalists on there last night...
"Yawman" (odd name, I know...he was Asian or something)...but he was the kindest
person you've ever seen....even in the competitions....he won a truck on one
competition and gave it away to another contestant because he knew the other
contestant had no vehicle whatsoever.....but he said during last nights finale...
he has a saying he tries to live by....Love Many...Trust Few...Hurt No One....well
WOW...I scammered for my pen and paper.....and in a few minutes...our daughter called and said..."Mom, I knew you'd want that saying that Yawman just said...so
I copied it down for you in case you didn't catch it all"... :-)
But we should ALL try to live by his 'saying'...LOVE MANY...TRUST FEW...HURT NO ONE...NO MATTER WHAT!!!


Now I didn't read your other post you mentioned...I probably should have taken the
time to do that...but regardless...Your mother gave you LIFE...and if she's bitter
or whatever the problem is with her....maybe YOU are the only one that can turn
her around...maybe YOU can make her see the light...and learn to live, love, laugh
and be happy. Wouldn't that be wonderful??? But that isn't going to happen if
you continue on with the same old resentment you're carrying now.

I hope you'll contact her in whatever way you feel comfortable...Maybe she's
secretly wishing she had closer ties with YOU...but maybe she just doesnt' know
how to go about 'breaking the ice'. Pride can destroy a life...or many lives...
don't let it destroy what you could have with your mom. Be the first to make
the first step...and if it doesn't go well...wait a week of maybe 2 and send her
a card....do that every little bit...writing sweet or kind notes in there and
she'll begin to melt...trust me!!! Time heals all wounds...but I do feel that
SOMEONE should be working on one end or the other.

I hope you contact your mom...and if you do...I hope you'll keep us posted...
kathryn

I would suggest trying to see your mother as the flawed human she is, see her apart from the fact that she's your *mom*.
I'm sure that she's disappointed you, maybe worse. Realize that there is a lot more to her than your perception of her and give her some love.

A quote, from a DEAR friend of mine(I love this):

"I am as sane a reaction as I can be to my f!cked-up circumstances."

:)

I called my mom. I didn't have a gift. I have an upcoming trip, so I will buy her something on that trip.

A few years ago, I was going through a certain kind of "class" that helped me realize what I should do to address some of the problems in my close relationships. I called up my mom, admitted my wrongs, and that simple act prompted her to cry and tell me she was sorry for being such a bad mother. It seems like that was a turning point. Things are far from perfect now, but as I have matured AND forgiven/let things go AND gotten healthier, I can deal with what little is left. For the most part, she holds her tongue about the things she used to say. She's still really annoying, but I can deal and am ok with calling her now, since we have conversations about all kinds of stuff and it's not about her picking on my life choices.

Then again, I had what I viewed as an unfixable relationship with my dad. He died. I don't sit around beating myself up for how I should have worked on that relationship while he was alive. It's just too late. I think about him and like to think I "communicate" with him in my head now. But I don't worry about what I should have done.

So...in a nutshell, either follow your heart to make things as good as you have the power to, or just let it go. Actually, no matter what, you just need to let something go. You can't fix everything on your end, but you may have a lot more power than you realize.

I did but only because I feel sorry for her if I didn't..it was actualy a nice and thoughtful gift,though I gringed being around her presence or giving it to her.
I only did it because it would break her heart if I hadn't,that's the only reason I baught her anything.I don't need her guilt and crap sulking on my psyche.
I am sure she'll return as a form of ass cancer in the future from all my repressed anger and resentment towards her..the bitch has ways of poisoning my life one way or the other.Fawking cvnt!!
(: