Hi:
The world is no "crazier" now than it was 40 or 50 years ago.
What has changed is the flow of information. 40 years ago there were no personal computers, no Internet, only 3 or 4 local TV channels and many people were still in the world of black and white, no shopping channels, no TV evangelists, no live reports from the war zone, none of what we have today. We are in an exploding information age. We are now massively flooded with information from many sources both positive and negative. Coupled with that, people are more open and honest about what is affecting them in their personal lives. 40 years ago nobody would tell anyone they were visiting a psychiatristm, and clinical psychologists were rare. Now people visit them frequently, not because there are more ills, but because the stigma has been erased and we are now in a "feel good" generation. When we have a problem of any kind, we want it fixed. 40 years ago nobody would even admit to a problem.
As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse I know that talking about those events were totally buried not only when I was young, but even as an adult to talk about it would mean being ostracized by family and even friends. That part is better today (but not cured), but the sexual and physical abuse is still there and society has given people much more permission to talk about it and deal with it.
For your depression I would suggest meditation and/or periods of relaxation. Learn to give to yourself instead of feeling you have to constantly give to others. Meditation (a minimum of an hour a day) has done wonders for eliminating the depression that I had for decades, and I've done it without a single pill. As a parent I'm sure you find your schedule filled with 'things to do' but you have to make time for yourself. You have to schedule time for yourself and things that you like to do. If you don't, your difficulties will continue without end. You also have to learn to let go of perceived difficulties in the world that are outside of your realm of control. The only thing in this world you can control is you, and sometimes that's a difficult lesson in life.
I'm 75 and the world today is much safer and less troubled than it was when I was growing up. People are living longer and more healthy lives every year. In fact, that's one reason that they talk about raising the retirement age for social security from 65 to 70. There's more of us around today than there were 75 years ago, or even 40 years ago.
Best to you in whatever you do.
Yes, there is a difference in the world, and a large one, and for the better. According to FBI statistics you are far safer today than you were 40 or 50 years ago. Yes, there's road rage but 50 years ago there weren't any freeways and no high speed roads to rage on! I've been driving for 60 years and I don't think that your memory is very good. The traffic of 50 or even 30 years ago was nowhere near what is today. (I'm in the Seattle area and there is no comparison of the change in the number of automobiles in the past 30 years.) I used to commute from Tacoma to Everett Washington (1988) and never hardly ever even slowed down on I-5. Now it takes hours, literally. I think you need your memory refreshed. In total, there is less going on now. You are just plugging in to the wider range of reporting than ever before in history. It's part of what I wrote earlier, the problems aren't greater, they are just shoved at you from all angles which make them seem greater.
Ever hear of the Great Depression? 20% unemployment? No minimum wage? People starving and living in shanty towns? I remember all of that. 55 million people were killed in WWII. I can't remember how many were killed in Korea, probably because I was too close to the action - I was in the trenches. Vietnam had thousands of U. S. casualties, many more than today in Iraq. Speaking of terrorism, do you remember the zoot suit riots (zoot suiters vs U. S. Military men on the streets of our cities) in the U. S. during WWII? Remember the rebellion/riots of the black sailors at San Pedro during WWII? The Watts riots? The Mafia wars? Do you think that terrorism has never occurred before now? Violence in the schools is highly publicized and very rare. Do you remember Jim Crow? How people who weren't the "right" color had to be second class citizens? Separate facilities, denial of jobs and housing. That wasn't legally challenged until only 40 years ago. How soon we forget. Yet there are those who would like to bring all of that back, and there are a lot of them.
Drug and alcohol use among teens is greater, but there is now a lack of direction. I'm in favor of the draft, universal military training for all, male and female. If the military can't hold them, then put them to use in civilian projects like the CCC of the Depression Era. We had the male part when I was growing up and every guy knew he was going into the military. The military years not only provided a lot of maturity, it gave many a free education, that's the only way I got to college. We need that today.
Also, as a society we do turn to more pills today than ever before, however, is that the fault of the pharmaceuticals? Or are people just seeking an easy way out? I have family members who in the 1940s were hooked on Dexedrine and barbiturates, so that part isn't really new either. People are taking less responsibility for their lives today than they were 40 or 50 years ago.
I'd still much rather have the world as it is today than the way it was 50 years ago. It will never be perfect.
I agree with some of your points....expecially how
there are more people and more forms of communication nowadays.... but I am 65,
and when I was in school, there was drinking, not no rampant drugs. There was no
road rage either, but there were plenty of cars.
There were also no nass shootings in schools, and no blantent terrorism,
although there were plenty of wars and nasty political goings on.
I do see a difference in the world. A rather large one.
It is wonderful that you meditate for an hour a day, and cured your depression
without a pill but few people do. The population at large is far more drugged
out that you realize, I think. Pharmaceuticals is a billion dollar industry that
takes itself very seriously. The majority to the pills now advertised on TV are
for depression, and they push it hard.
"Well, I don't want to argue, so I will not answer you agian, but anyone who thinks the world is a better place after things like 9/11 is not seeing things to clearly. I am 60 and I grew up in a complex called Parkway Village - it was right next to the Garden State Parkway in New Jersey. Freeways and heavy traffic have been around all my life, but when I was young, people did not shoot at each other on them. Children did not bring guns to school and murder each other. People all over the world did not tie bombs to themselves and blow everyone around them up. You could board a plane without practially being strip searched. (They did have planes in the 50s and 60s, commericial ones, too and lots of people used them.) Global warming was not such a freightening concern. WMD, unfortunatley, were only just being invented, and atomic bombs were still for the elite few."
How has 9/11 made the world worse? It has only handed the fear mongers of our government their golden opportunity to retaliate a thousand fold with their own terror on others and in the process they have spewed fear on the general public to control them (us) in order to advance their own terrorist agenda. However, we are still as safe if not safer then we were on 9/11. If you have bought into the fear that the terrorists and our own government have peddled, then they have succeeded in their missions. If you live in fear, you are setting yourself up for both depression and hate. Fear is behind all hate. Unless you have a gun pointed at your head or are yourself in imminent peril, your fear is irrational. It is irrational fear that is behind a great deal of depression, and a lot of hate.
Israel has searched airline passengers for decades. It's a small inconvenience for air travel and we are safer and better off because of it.
So, how do WMDs and global warming affect you and I today? Not one iota. So why worry about it? Why be depressed about it? It is that kind of irrational fear that has been heaped upon us from every direction through our modern information age. You can buy into the fact that there are WMDs and global warming, but you certainly don't have to be in fear because of it.
When I was 15, my neighbor, aged 17, went on a crime spree and was put in 'reform' school, escaped at age 18, went on another spree and murdered two policemen. He died in the gas chamber in Nevada for that crime. My neighbor two doors up from me when I was 10, killed her husband with an ax. Around that same time another neighbor aged 19, with a gun, killed the used car dealer who sold him a lemon. I lived in a quiet, very safe neighborhood. Guns and violence are nothing new.
"I am glad you are happy with the way things are however. Good for you."
I never said I was "happy with the way things are..." I said things are better now than 30 or 40 years ago. I'm happy with the way that I am. I'm happy with my sphere of control, which is me, my aura and everything within it. What happens outside of that world are things that I have no control over, and what I can't control, I don't worry about. In fact, I think it is exciting to watch all that is happening in the entire world, from a neutral perspective. Meditation has allowed me to focus on what I can control, and have neutrality about what I can't. It's that simple. You can also gain the same perspective from other venues as well. The world is growing and changing for the better and you don't have to get caught up in other peoples/nations problems.
"But there are legimate concerns for a number of
reasons that the human race will not survive. I hope and think we will, but
there are a lot of things that must change drastically and quickly.
People know this, and that is one reason why antidepressents and tranquilizers
are a billion dollar industry and are so heavily advertised on TV. Unfortunatley,
people are eating them like candy."
I don't have the same perspective as you do, but, what if the human race were to end tomorrow? What can you do about it? Worry and depression doesn't help a bit.
In this country the Great Depression era through the end of WWII were exceedingly more stressful than what we as a nation and individuals face today. Yet the population didn't escape with drugs and alcohol any more (in fact less) than today. And barbiturates, Dexedrine and Benzedrine and many others were available in those days.
Back to a couple of earlier points. Unless you are in immanent physical danger, fear is irrational. I learned that one simple fact in a seminar 35 years ago, and it has changed my life. You are responsible only for you and no one else. Taking responsibility for others, or the world outside of your sphere of responsibility is a way to guarantee yourself a lifetime of worry and certain depression.
If you think I'm perfect, I'm not. Far from it. But I've gone from depression, being suicidal, having to deal with vivid and disturbing abuse and trauma PTSDs, to a productive and enjoyable life, and I've done it without a single pill.