Ok, I'm now so desperate and upset and getting sad. I really need HELP, and am open to trying new things. My problem is vulvodynia, just burning and inflammation. I don't have the "sore" type pain, like you would get with bruise, but I have the BURNING pain with inflammation. So the entrance only to my vagina burns and is swollen. All other parts inside and out are fine. The burning is so bad that we've been through all the water based lube at the "store", with nothing that doesn't hurt. And we do need the lube since my parts are very small, and my husband's are very large. My ob/gyn is of no help. He said oh it will go away soon, but I've had it over a year now.

Here's the complication. I am 8 months pregnant. Now, my baby is on track for size, but both me and my abdomen are small, so we are still able to get in to good positions for sex. The complication is the excess vaginal discharge, which is normal according to the ob/gyn. I'm peeing all day, so that plus discharge plus being hot and sweaty is really making problems worse. I wash my undies in hot water and baking soda with a little free detergent if needed. I dry them out in the sun when I can. I don't use soap down there. Today I am going to start oatmeal and baking soda soaks. I really need help.

Why? Because for over a year, neither of us has really been getting any. Getting pregnant was one of the most painful episodes ever. Not being able to have sex due to the severe pain is starting to take an emotional toll, which is just plain wrong, since it is due to a physical problem. Over the past few weeks, the increased urination, discharge, and moisture is starting to cause burning in general, not just sex. I don't mind changing the undies serveral times a day, but I really am losing the ability to cope with the burning and sex issue...

Thanks to anyone who replies!
Kim