to me...things are the same. Marriage is a piece of paper saying u are married. U have this great wedding and it last 4-5 hours and then you go home or on a honey moon. Monday comes and you are back to work. I think it s the same as being boyfriend and girlfriend. when u fight its not " i want to break up" its " i want a divorce". Thats my opinion. My other two cents is. If you dont have god and dont put him first, well then if i were u i'd get god and put him first and he will work miracles in your relationship. but thats me.

Well, I married my dh 6 weeks after meeting him so there wasn't really time to see a change. LOL We just celebrated 9 years and are completely nuts about each other. :D I believe in marriage, I don't agree with living together. But aside from that, you have to be commited. You can't let yourself consider divorce or use "leaving" as a weapon against your spouse.