Confused and Jane, you are NORMAL!! DOn't waste your time in herbal stuff.

WOmen cannot have an cllmax during intercourse because there is not enough friction of the clit. For us to come there should be constant and direct pressure on the clit (like the sucking motion on the clit from OS). You can have pleasure from intercourse, but not an cllmax!

You can cllmax from: OS, direct manual stimulation and toys like strong vibrators.

So girls, Hollywood taught us wrong: too many sex scenes seen in movies that show women moaning ang screaming while a man pounds away. That is so not true. Porn shows that too and men AND women start believing it.
Remember Shere Hite from the Hite Report? She talked about this, 30 years ago.