Raymond, I'm not Shelley,though I think I can offer some advice here as I have struggled with this one.....
Firstly, we are not 'all' dairy intolerant. Yes, dairy is not easily digested-though for some people just fine. There are tests yopu can have to find out-or you can judge by how it makes you feel too. Most people here are talking about eliminating dairy during their cleansing phases. If just doing that in the short term, well it's manageable(although I do slip in a dash of milk with my two cups of natural decaf tea a day -but please don't tell Shelley!;)
As for your cereal, soy milk is definitely the go! I prefer it to milk because of its nutty taste. Get the full fat one so it doesn't seem like water as you say. It can take some adapting, though before you know it, you'll prefer it. Also they make vanilla flavoured ones too that will change the taste for you if need be. If you have Sugar issues-get one without cane sugar/barley etc. I buy a sugarfree one and add dash of vanilla sometimes.
As for your other dairy, well it depends on your condition. You may only need to go without short term. Otherwise, start eploring soy products, yoghurt, cheese a little more. Everything is adaptable.
Hope that helps.

Danielle

soy milk is the best in my opinion. Vanilla flavored.

I use Vanilla Rice Milk and it does just fine. It's what I use in the Protein Drink too. :) It's relatively cheap (can find it for 1.07 at my specialty foods store, Trader Joe's), and doesn't have to be refrigerated when unopened, which is a BIG plus to me. ;)

Soy milk is an option, but if you use it, then don't eat Tofu or you will overdose on soy, which is a goitregen. I have thyroid issues, so I really can't do much soy.

When I'm not specifically cleansing, I drink milk, I just don't DRINK milk if you know what I mean. ;) No tall glasses, just the occasional chai and on cereal and for cooking sauces, baking.

I live in a country where the people are labeled milkaholics and cheese junkies, the rate of ostheoporosis is among the highest in
the world. In recent years goatmilk and goat cheese and sheepmilk cheese have become more and more common. Dairy allergies have gone rampant here, and even the medical community have aknowledged that there IS something wrong....and goats dairy products seem to be easier for the human body.....
There is a great site, Robert Cohen, which will turn you off dairy forever! Psychologically.
Goatmilk butter is excuisite in its very refined flavor!