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HusbandOne
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I am a husband, and I am so sorry for the women who are having problems with the device. I read your posts and my heart aches. I know that sounds dramatic but your stories are really heart breaking.
My question, how can I get my wife to see that this is a problem that can be addressed? Is there a better aproach?
My wife has had this Mirena device for 2 1/2 years and I asked that she bring it up with her OBGYN that it was a problem a year ago and every time it comes up we have really nasty fights.Her sex drive has taken a down turn since it was inserted. It is not just the sex, it just feels like she doesn't love me anymore and most of the time she is not the same woman I love. We got into a nasty fight about it last month she then said she will have it removed and of course I bring it up again and we have one of the nastiest fights ever.
I know this sounds like a horrible approach to most reasonable people but I am considering leaving my marriage and family and I don't want to have the regret that if we just would have addressed this our marriage could have been saved. I love my wife dearly and if I came home tonight and she sat on my lap while we watched a movie I would probably be happy enough for a while at least.
I know there are no guarantees that having this removed will save our marriage but, I need to try. I have pointed her to other websites with women posting similar complaints about the loss of libido, she refused to read them or even consider that this is a problem. I may point her here since she recently has been interested in Dr. Oz's shows and recommendations but most likely it will lead to another fight. I have printed out the manufacurer's warning about other symptoms she is having she refused to look at it.
She said she will drop by her OBGYN office today, I don't expect they will do anything without an appointment. My concern is that the OB will say something like "...your husband is crazy, this is your body!!.... I suggest you tell him NO!!" If that happens forget about her doing anything about it and I prepare to end the marriage.
What can I do?
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- Re: Husband in need of help happyfamily6
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This is a reply to # 2,169,292I am so sorry! I have read posts on this site over the last 5 years by other husbands saying almost the exact same words!! I have no advice to offer except to say that I do hope she can have it removed somehow and that your marriage will survive. Best wishes.- Re: Husband in need of help HusbandOne
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This is a reply to # 2,169,605Thank you,
I am actually not sure what help I am looking for from this forum. I have done research and I am sure that removing the device is best for us.
She made the appointment for next week and I am nervous that she will experience bad side affects after removing it. I will have to own this decision good or bad. Either way she will go through the same experience sooner or later so removing it is still the right thing to do.
Thank you for your kind words, I will post again later to give an update with our experience.
- Re: Husband in need of help happyfamily6
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This is a reply to # 2,170,026It might be best to expect bad side effects (not trying to be negative, but realistic) and brace yourself, knowing it is part of the healing process and will only lead to improvement in time. At least on this site you can ask about new things that pop up.
Every marriage is precious, and it is worth fighting for. - Re: Husband in need of help Amberfadams
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This is a reply to # 2,170,026I was EXTREMELY hormonal for the first 10 days after my removal. Tomorrow will be two weeks and today makes my second day of feeling really good physically. It was awful at first. I threatened to strangle my husband with his dirty sock lol. He knew what to expect and was quite patient with me. My libido has already started to increase as well. Not a huge difference yet, but better:) Best wishes for you both!- Re: Husband in need of help HusbandOne
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This is a reply to # 2,171,642Thank you both for the information and sharing your experience. To be fair, this is not a one sided issue there are plenty of problems that I am working on my end. I am hoping that removing this will help everything else fall into place. - Re: Husband in need of help cvwebb823
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This is a reply to # 2,171,642Did you experience bad cramping a few days after getting your's removed? Mine is coming and going in very powerful waves on horrible pain. I am taking advil but it isn't helping much. I am glue'd to my heating pad, but so miserable. Worried about this and if this is normal?
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This is a reply to # 2,170,026She had it removed on Thursday. So far not much change, she did experience some pain when we had sex on Sunday. This might be because of menopause we are 50 years old. I hope this is not a permanent thing after removing the device. I know low estrogen would cause this and we are reluctant to start hormone treatment because of family history with cancer.- Re: Husband in need of help HusbandOne
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This is a reply to # 2,171,796Thirteen days since it was removed. It appears that aunt flow came back for an extended stay. She has been spotting last week with heavy flow yesterday. She was very emotional Mother's Day weekend. She says she wants to jump out of her body and run away.
She is very angry with me of course but now we agreed that we will divorce. Unfortunately she sees this as my fault. I agree that I pressured her to get the IUD removed and I am very sorry for the pain she is in. But what I don't want to do is walk away from my marriage with the regret we didn't try this.
I told her I wasn't happy in the marriage and that it wouldn't take a lot for me to be content. I asked her why she isn't affectionate with me and she said she really wanted to kiss me the other night I fell asleep on the floor watching TV and I asked why she didn't. She was afraid it would lead to sex. I just feel so starved of affection.
- Re: Husband in need of help HusbandOne
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This is a reply to # 2,171,796Ok, She is being more affectionate towards me now. We have held each other tightly several times and she is kissing me.
No more mention of the divorce but really that is still on the table because that is what we agreed to. I will suggest we try marriage counseling again before we call it quits.
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