I always ask the women why they date who they date. No more important question than that. Don't ask the sociopath why he who he is...who the hell cares? Not I. Don't you be the one asking either. You're not on this earth to cure everybody, to diagnosis the world's losers. You need to date correctly, efficiently, dump the losers quick, and keep moving on. Develop a keen sense of who is a loser and who isn't. If you pay attention to who you've been dating, you'll see a pattern. Give me 10 things you notice about the last five loser guys you've dated...we'll go from there.

I'm sorry that you've had such terrible experiences. The thing about sociopaths and how/why they enter our lives all boils down to our personal choices, flawed "beliefs," and (in most cases) core-issues that have not been resolved.

Flawed Beliefs:
* everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt
* everyone deserves a second chance
* I have the ability to make other people happy
* I am responsible for the happiness and well-being of others
"Benefit of the doubt" feeds cognitive dissonance which is when one person's actions/behaviors do not FIT into our own system of beliefs, and we attempt to force ourselves to rationalize those actions/behaviors so that they DO fit into our system of beliefs. Example: I would not deliberately set someone up to take their money from them by coercion or outright forgery, so anyone that I care about or love would maintain the same values. "Second chances" only perpetuates the cog/diss and exploitation of our core values. I have control over one thing, ONLY: myself and my choices. I am not responsible for anyone else's happiness or well-being. Understanding control and responsibility allows for me to construct and maintain strict boundaries, across the boards with ALL people, and I am not obligated to tolerate anything that is harmful to me.

Core-Issues:
* shame-core as a result of emotional/physical abuse
* guilt-core as a result of emotional/physical abuse and trauma
Shame-core as the result of being raised in a dysfunctional environment, and this requires intensive work with a professional therapist that understands this concept, along with guilt-core. I'm addressing both of these core-issues with some serious focus, and I no longer require the approval, acceptance, or validation of anyone outside of my Self. Therefore, if someone attempts to trample my boundaries, they're OUT without anger, resentment, or ill-will. They're just out, that's all.

I don't know what your personal experiences have been, and if you believe that you are attracting or choosing sociopaths, it might be a very wise option to consider counseling therapy with someone to address what could be seriously flawed beliefs and core-issues.

Best wishes to you

you are attracted to their charm. The best way to date a non-sociapath is to see what drives them, how much time they typically spend on selfish activities or kind outward activities. Look for signs of natural displays of emotion, empathy, kindness, compassion, human characteristics.

Try to avoid charming, entrepeneurs and business/money/night life type men.