All week my narcistic father has been blowing up my phone talking about having some kind of orthopedic surgery and how if he dies my mother "wins".

blablablabla. Nothing life threatening. It's a 40 minute procedure and he goes home the same day and he's milking it for all it's worth.

Talked to him a couple times. 1-2hr conversations on the phone. Sounds extreme but he talks I basically say "yep, whatever, yep, ok" while playing online poker and keeping most of my attention focused on that. LOL I look at it this way..I'd be playing poker or online at that time of night with or without him on the phone. He's like a gambling addiction too.. talk to him and just get amazed at what he comes out with. Like how he's on his deathbed and his dying words are just to remind me that he hates her and that she's trash and whatever else.

My FAVORITE line = If he lives, he helps me out in life. If he dies, I get nothing.

I knew it was a test. A test to see if I would tell my mother and she'd call and wish him luck.

The 2nd part of the test is to see if I'd care.

The 3rd part of the test is to see if I'd ask if I'm in his will or anything which I did NOT ask nor hinted at in any way.


I decided to play the good daughter and called him extra early this morning to wish him luck. He thanked me..then went into his ramble and dillusions about how it's so wrong what my mother did for 27 years blablabla. how he's on his deathbed and I'm the only one that "cares".



No.. this was just a preventative measure on my end. Call and pretend I care because if he lives I'd never hear the end of it and I would be on his bad side.

Stupid disillusion jackass. I'm partly narcissistic too.. I want him alive for my own selfish purposes because otherwise he's too f***ed up to have a normal relationship with anyway. Can't beat em, join em.