That's entirely up to you. You are considered an adult who has reached the age of consent...so no worries about him contributing to the delinquency of a minor. While he is older, he's not really old enough to be your father (well...unless he became a teen father...).

Some things to consider---due to the age differences, you both are at different stages of life. Sometimes one will find that each person has different wants and needs that are age related. For example, many 21 year-olds often are still learning about themselves when it comes to what you want to do with your life and what you expect your life to be in the future. Many 37 year-olds are at a point where they want to settle down (if they haven't already) and may well be more of a homebody than a 21 year-old.

Of course, this is all generalizations but still something to think about. Some 21 year-olds are very mature for their age and are ready to settle down while some 37 year-olds are still immature, unsettled and don't know what they want to do with their lives.

Certainly, many couples with similar age differences have successful long-term relationships. I think those relationships work because 1) they have common interests and values; and 2) They are both on the same page when it comes to what they want in life.

Of course, long term, the older person will start to decline physically (unless the younger one's health deteriorates) well before the younger one. Sometimes when that happens, the younger person will become frustrated when the older one can no longer keep up.

All that said, if you like this man and want to get to know him better, then go for it. Don't listen to others who are focused on the age difference. If their concerns were along the lines that he was an unsavory character, for example, then hear them out. However, if they're only saying he's too old for you---tell them that's for you---and only you---to decide.

Right now, since you're first dating, just take the time to get to know one another. You can think about the long-term picture if, and when, things become more serious.

I will leave you with one thought, however. In cases where I've heard about people with similar age differences, sometimes I will hear of the younger one saying something like this: "I met him when I was 31 and he was 47. If I had met him when I was 21 and he was 37, I don't think I would have gone out with him. I'm a different person now 10 years later, more settled and I know what I want out of life. I wasn't at that point when I was 21."

Again, something to consider. However, you know yourself best so, it's all up to you.

No matter how mature you are, you are no match for a 37 year old. No matter how immature they are, they have a ton more life experience and can manipulate you very effectively. A 37 year old man is, in my experience, in the prime of life. They can be very good looking at that age.

That being said I've had many friends marry people that are up to 15 years different, including my best girlfriend who married a man 15 years younger. Best marriage I've ever seen, and still going strong after 18 years.

But honey, men will always be seeking women who are young. You are an easy target for those that just want a young thing. Believe me, there are more losers out there than quality men.

If you are going to date this man I'd get to know him (non-physically) first. I find the best way to either fan the flames or kill the flames are some really LONG probing discussions about many many things. Like Religion, Women's rights, ex-wives, relationships with Mom, relationship with Dad, growing up, Political, social......the more you question the more you'll know. And in the end you might just think.....what an old coot! And if the guy doesn't want to spend the time getting to know you like that, then screw it....then you'll know.

the guy wants to get laid. trust me on this one...