I'm definitely a guy, and I can tell you that every guy does not like every girl.

What your girlfriends are probably referring to is the strange phenomena that happens around 3am at the local club or bar, where drunken males tend to find a sexual partner for the night.

I don't think this has anything to do with them liking the girls they've slept with.

The reasons are more selfish if you ask me.

I think we're all guilty of doing this once or twice.



Cheers

There's no guarantees in any endeavor, personal or business. Maybe you've been around too many Debbie Downers all your life and by listening to their rants, they've got you convinced. The upside to good lov'n trumps the downside. The adage that there's a guy out there for every girl tends to be correct. I've seen women that I'd never believe in a million years would have a date, get dates. And hot sweethearts who can't keep a guy for longer than a few dates. Not every guy likes every girl...that doesn't work. But if the better question is: Does there tend to be a guy for every girl out there? Yes, generally speaking, that tends to be a true statement. Now, if you're asking the McCainster is there a lot of GOOD GUYS out there worthy to have? No. They typically wind up with somebody but they're not "keepers" in my humble opinion. That's why you date, and date often, and weed out the bad from the good. When you notice a loser, you dump him quickly and don't try to polish him up...if he's tarnished, throw him back and let somebody else do the work. Especially into your 20's. Don't settle for schmucks, but don't automatically discount a guy until he's proven to be a reject. Eventually...eventually you'll know what your winner has to look and act like to win your love. Odds are in your favor with proper due diligence.

yikes, get new friends.

I wonder if they meant "every guy would like to sleep with every girl". That would be a lot closer to the truth. And yet, still even this is not true. Ever wonder why friends are baffled when guys don't call? It's because guys don't cling to a girl for a relationship they know won't work. Most guys will blow off a girl unless they find genuine interest and are not as encumbered by the ideal of monogamy that plague so many girls. This is my take and it means that guys are actually picky.

As for the rest of your post, sadly it seems that you don't have good role models in your life for people with healthy, local relationships. I can tell you with certainty that men can be picky and then absolutely loyal once they find a woman they want to truly be with. I know this because I watched my Dad all his life and he is this way. My husband is as well. Don't let fear and doubt keep you from living live (this means relationships or anything else in life).

Some people won't go out on a limb. It's a shame; that is where the fruit is.

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