92007,

You wrote...

"I am not sure if I'm looking to vent, seeking advise on dealing w/ ignorance, or how to just get over it and move on."

I think...

None of the above!


I think you wrote a 'page-turner'!!!


That's what struck me as I read your post.

Questions, and surprise, jumped into my head as I read your first few words...

Of course, there's no way I can help, but I surely would like to be a fly on the wall to watch the developments of this story!


I wonder how these people came to speak to you in the first place. Why would they think that is the appropriate follow-up to a P.E. teacher's complaint?

Even, why did the original P.E. teacher feel he/she needed 'reps' to approach you?

Wouldn't it have been so much easier to simply ask you, one on one, "What are we dealing with here? How should we best handle this?"

Why, even, would the administrator and the 'school psych' undertake the task?

You know the climate, the rules that govern your particular school...I don't. I don't know 'the rules' of any school, or any Special Ed class...E.D. or not.

But, I feel there is an underlying miscommunication here.


If I were you I'd document all you can remember of the incident, and write it out in a report form.


I'd include the questions this conversation brought to your mind...in a short and concise form...so that, if needed, your report could be used to assist in solving any communications disconnect that may be discussed in the future.


This came at you from out of left field, totally unexpected.


Did you know that 'two on one' discussions are considered by some to be lopsided in 'power'. I was asked to leave an office because one fellow's daddy had told him never to 'negotiate' with more than one at a time. My husband and I hadn't known there was a 'negotiation' going on that day. We smile at the remembrance of the incident. We can only surmise that this man did not like to talk to women.

:D

Even shaking hands where one person uses two hands is considered to be unfairly lopsided in 'power'. So, if anyone uses two hands in shaking with you, quickly add in your second hand, to balance the power.

Maybe call in another, to balance any future 'discussions' you are suprised with. ...Couldn't hurt to have a 'listener', I think.


Good for you for educating those people in what they needed to know!

They may never approach you in that way again.


If I were you, I'd tuck the report away in a file where you save information that may help you improve the system, some day...and I'd use smiles and body language to demonstrate that you bear no resentment toward the two people who confronted you.

...In fact, that you are glad to know them better!


I'd 'expect' better relations with them, because people can feel each others thoughts. Somehow they'll get 'the message', and treat you with more regard than before.

People are overjoyed to be 'let off the hook', so to speak.


I did that to some people who had hurt me something awful.

It worked wonderfully...NOT just to my advantage, but to everyone's.

They may have thought me a sap, for years, but when push came to shove, my smiles and nodded approval came up smelling like roses. They were so glad!


My stock went up tremendously with them! And, they got off my back. Grin. Wink.


There is more than one way to skin a cat.


Let us know if you need support, or to rant, or anything.

(Rants are limited to 15 minutes, of course, and we are not allowed to do anything but cheer at how well you say it...with the objective of the whole session crumbling into laughter.)


It's folks like yourself who will, automatically, change the system...and help your charges far more than anyone can guess, yet.


Do you ever write adventures/mysteries?

Bet you'd be good at it, 92007.

Fiction can influence fact, even.

Thanks for telling us.

My best,

Fledgling