I am outgoing and pretty enough to
intimidate some men. There are some
who are confident enough to ask but
others have confessed they felt I
would say no, so they did not want
to try. I certainly have my share of
men who had the panache to look me
in the eyes and tell me what they
want but I have no problem taking
for myself the role of feeling
confident enough that if I am feeling
a man is interested, I will take a
few steps to make them feel more
comfortable. I do not see it as being
coy at all. Of course, I am older and
am not into playing games either so
I tend to be more real and to have
fun. I also tend to have more than my
share of confidence and have been
known to ask people eating alone in
a restaurant if they mind me joining
them. I have never been refused and
more often I have never seen those
people again, but for the sake of
living my life to its fullest, I have
found great adventure to be found in
taking those kind of chances. I also
know there is a chance I will be
rejected although have yet to experience
that. It seems to be in my personality to
make many leaps of faith in a day.

Relative to saying "Yes", I have used
that and still do, but this far down
the road in my relationship with my
lover, he also has found that he can
say the same thing to me, and we both
delight in me asking, "yes, what?" and
he grins and tells me all the things
he wants to do to me. This is where he
does become the pursuer and I am hanging
on to every word he is saying.

best wishes,
Zoe

-_-