Need Input ASAP PLEASE???????? 
strong1
16 y
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hello all, i am a mother of a molestation victim caused by my brother to my daughter; we put him away and has been almost 5yrs BUT... my daughter has always had nightmares, some even with face images of her father, her uncle (a good one), her boyfriend, etc. My concern is that now she is 18, she is in a serious relationship and they are somewhat intimate. Since the first time and only time (about 2-3 weeks ago) that her and the BF did the deed she is now having some horrific nightmares but this last one has her freaked out: my brother D (i was raised with D and C, the molester Sean is a half brother that was not raised with me or my two other "full" brothers) anyway, she had this dream that D was standing between her doorway and the bathroom materbating. now let me say, my room is directly across from hers, and the timing she is stated this "dream" happened is not concurrent with her details of when it was suppose to be happening. everything she described and even her actions (not waking up her sibling that was in the next bed) are not specific and has almost no sense to any frame of detail; now she is second guessing herself about the real incident with S and questioning herself that if she was abused again how would she beable to determine fact from fiction??? I have spent close to 25 thousand on her therapy and she is a strong, healthy young women. I wanted her to start seeing someone BEFORE any sexual relations to help her deal with what COULD happen as far flashbacks but it didnt work out that way-- now I fel she is going through what I had assumed she would once she started getting physical with that special one.
Please give me any input you may have-- are these types of dreams normal? and what do we do about them while searching for now another GOOD therapist?
P.S. We know that D did not do as her dream specifies and she knows it as well but its trying to understand why she had the dream? she is very close to D. he is the only man besides her dad, grandfather and brother that she really truly trust which makes it even harder for her to rationalize. again please please help with any infoAdvertisement
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- Re: Need Input ASAP PLEASE???????? #99262
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This is a reply to # 1,200,787Everyone will have a different idea about how to help, so I'll just say what comes to mind when I hear this.
She is deeply traumatized by the events of her youth, that much is clear.
Rather than delving into the trauma as many therapists might do, there can be steps forward into wholeness in other ways.
For example, is your daughter mineral deficient? This leads to so many things, anxieties and depression, all sorts of things, perhaps the trauma itself is locked in the body and having a hard time getting out because she is imbalanced. The best way to recover mineral balance is with a system called RBTI. Dr. Reams developed it, and there are a few practitioners scattered across the country. Try brixman.com, the yahoo! group can be contacted there, and you can locate a practitioner, within a week you can have a perfectly clear picture of where she stands mineral-wise.
I hope that this helps her.
Another useful tool is available on here, Dr. Charlie is his name, and he deals with healing the liver, which also stores a lot of anger and resentment, most health conditions start in the liver. He'll send her a liver tonic, and create a program for her, if you contact him.
EFT is emotional freedom technique, there are so many practitioners across the country that might give her help, she can do basic tapping when she feels stressed after a dream, or if she gets shaken up.
I hope some of this is helpful. There are heart-based meditation practices available, as well, one is called Sahaj Marg which has, as part of its practice, a cleaning component whereby old impressions are removed from the system.
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- Re: Need Input ASAP PLEASE???????? Steve888
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This is a reply to # 1,200,787I am offering 10 minutes of free energy work to anyone on curezone who needs help. I've had some good success with anxiety/PTSD.
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Steve - Re: Need Input ASAP PLEASE???????? fledgling
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Just one tip, Strong1...
Seven decades have taught me that we get MORE of what we focus on...and that the world is full of more possibilities than we can dream.
Your daughter is at a perfect age to aspire in any direction she chooses...and get there.
Yesterday is just an echo...'real', of course, but not the only reality.
Please let her focus on the great and beautiful things she can do and experience.
Doctors will focus on the one past experience and its possible effects on her future, if you ask them to. I'm sure she knows many possibilities in that direction.
But there are so many more things within her. She knows what she prefers. Let her.
I know we'd love to know every detail of our futures, pick and choose our paths, free of all obstacles...though we can't...especially not for another.
But we can acknowledge and encourage their talents...we can give our approval and support, confident they will grow into an excellent life, on their own, with only love and trust from us.
My best to you all,
Fledgling- Re: Need Input ASAP PLEASE???????? jurplesman
15 y
3,036
This is a reply to # 1,218,478I tend to agree with #99262 , that regardless of the reality of events, it seems to me she is traumatized by the previous childhood experience. Treatment should concentrate of the possible nutritional and health factors that affects her continued feelings of stress in the here and now.
The psychonutritional treatment of PTSD is explained at:
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Hypoglycemia at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/PTStress.html
and ask to be referred to a Nutritional Doctor, Clinical Nutritionist or Nutritional Psychologist, if self-help therapy fails.
- Re: Need Input ASAP PLEASE???????? jurplesman
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- Re: Need Input ASAP PLEASE???????? #103604
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First of all, I have participated in EMDR for about 6 weeks. It helped me a lot. It did not cure me. In fact, that was about 5 years ago and I am having tons of flashbacks again- which is why I've been visiting this forum. BUT it helped me a lot at the time, and I would do it again if I could find a way. You are looking for a patch until you find a therapist. EMDR requires a special therapist, but if you call every therapist in the book and ask, one of them maybe able to help you.
Next, some ideas that may be ludicrous, just to brainstorm.
She could tell her boyfriend, and tell him in advance the best way to comfort her if she has a flashback or gets sad or withdraws. I said to my husband "always tell me you love me and it will be okay." He loves having this advice. It helps on HIS end of the relationship because he doesn't feel so intimidated.
She could call RAINN and ask about a patch until you find a therapist. I know that's probably old news, but thought I would remind you. OR perhaps a local college mental health center.
She can be very assertive about what she does and doesn't want with her boyfriend, so she's never afraid that she'll be trapped.
And for you, remember that she is a person just like you are. It probably hurts a lot to worry for her, but you could navigate the situation and so can she. We all have our challenges.
- Re: Need Input ASAP PLEASE???????? #99262
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