This year and last I have been working really hard to acknowledge toxic people in my life and try to cut them out. I dated someone for 3 years which was a very disfunctional relationship. She cheated (with multiple people) and lied a lot so we broke up. I did a lot of introspecting and changed a lot of perspectives I had on myself and the world. I still stayed friends with the ex which sometime I feel isn't the best idea. For awhile I quit taking her calls and deleted her off myspace but she kept leaving all these really desperate messages on my phone and I started to feel bad so we talked and resolved some issue and everything was all good, so I though.

I started dating this girl that was really sweet (I'll call her B). We dated for about 2 months and things were going well and I was taking things kinda slow. Some of the people she hung out with I felt were a little questionable but when I talked and hung out with her I got good feelings.

She ended up moving in with this girl (I will say her name is Kay) that is really good friends with my ex. Both my ex and B have had problems with Kay in the past, but they both worked their seperate issues out with Kay they are friends again. I still got bad feelings from Kay and told B to be careful about hanging out and moving in with her (which she told Kay I said that they shouldn't hang out, which kinda irritating me because that is not what I said, just to be careful). I would go over their place and I these really ackward vibes from the roomate which really made me not feel welcome at all.

I never told my ex that I started dating B, because for one it's none of her business who I date and 2 awhile ago somehow she found out that B had a thing for me and I got this really crazy phone call from my ex and she was saying all this really demeaning things to me and also about B. I was upset for awhile but blew it off and forgave her. So I never told her because I didn't wanna get involved in some dramatic situation like that again.

Anyway I kept getting these really weird calls from my ex eluding to the fact I was dating B and she would say all these real catty things about her. I also kept getting real weird vibes from B's roomate. My ex and Kay kept telling me that B was crazy and I shouldn't talk to her. I felt real uncomfortable with the whole situation and kinda freaked out and just quit going over there I kinda quit talking to B. I felt something was going on and thought they were all kinda acting a little juvenile. A month or so later I found out that Kay would call my ex every time I would go over there and tell her what I was doing. They wanting me to stop dating B because they said "I was too good for her." This made me kinda mad. Why would a roommate supposed friend go behind her back and do that?

B has no idea about any of this and thinks I just stopped talking to her out of the blue. I feel kinda bad because I we had sex right before I stopped talking to her and we still liked each other. I just am tired of having these dramatic people in my life so I stopped talking to all of them.

I saw B recently and she said she wanted to hang out. I asked her how her living situation was and she was like "oh it's great we get a long so well!" She was also saying how they they are gonna renew a 6 month lease in June.

Do you guys think I should tell B the whole situation what happened or do you think I should just drop the whole thing and just not talk to these people anymore? I know if I tell her there will be some drama for a little bit but it might end up better in the long run, but at the same token sometime ignorance is bliss and if I don't tell her I just don't have to deal with any of that and just move on to something else.

hmmm what to do...