When a woman gives a guy a "Lewinsky", you've just opened the floodgates for everything else. You were going along, nice and steady, each move each date exploring feelings...AND THEN WHAM...I'M GO'IN DOWN!!!!!!!!!! Unusual? Unfortunately not in this day and age so I give you 2 "thumbs up" for waiting as long as you did. I'm impressed. But for you, as you've explained, that was clearly out of your comfort zone at the time, so much so that you avoided his natural instinct as a guy to go to the next phase. Hmmmmmm, this is a toughie for the Mtnnn Mannn...a gal who takes it slow, then, ah..."takes it slow", doesn't want to get laid as a reward, still wants the guy to respect her in the morning, but not too much as to look desperate. A lot going on here. I sense by the way you put a thought together that you're decent, a woman who's worth it. I'll assume the same for him. The environment of highly intense, built-up volcano of sexual performance is upon you, is this what you want? He's thinking it, trust me, this guy can't think of anything else. His little sweetiepie just gave him the headjob of his life, he wants it all! He's at school taking a test, think'in of that head. He goes to Burger King, looks up at the menuboard, think'in of that head. You gotta ask yourself: Is this guy worth giving myself to him? That's something no stranger here on Curezone can tell you, this is all you, this is what women of every era and every nation have asked themselves along the way...should I? You want him? You're going to get laid by somebody, shouldn't it be on your terms? Been dating for a long time, your words not mine. That indicates there's something there. He's obviously worth your time, you have invested yourself in him, and he in you. Am I on target here? Yeah, I'm on target. I'm not going to give you permission to jump onto the king-size, pillow-top mattress and spread 'em wide for loverboy, but...this is called "growing up". We all face this decision, each and everyone of us. There's a time when you say, "Nope, not with this guy or gal, not worth it" and then there's other times when you say, "OOOOOOHHHHH YEAHHHH, WHAT ARE WE WAIT'IN FOR???!!!!!""""" Well?

I'm sure you have heard this before, but if he dumps you after "getting what he wants" after some time, he wasn't worth it anyway.

My caution would be to be sure this doesn't turn into the kind of sexual relationship where YOU service HIM only, receiving no satisfaction yourself. THAT would tell you alot about him and how selfish or not he may be. (And don't say the hugging and kissing is enough for you; it won't be enough if you develop a pattern of fellatio only!)