It is a fallacy that there is a "Universal Lifestyle" that we should aspire to. Having the ambition that we should seek "THE" one and only "acceptable and proper" lifestyle/philosophy of life is always going to leave us feeling like a failure (because there is no such thing).

There is alot in life that is disappointing (social/emotional injustice, personal relations failures including/especially family and friendship "let downs", corruption, hatred/resentment, etc.).

All this is good reason to be be sad/upset, but since many people simply haven't had similar experiences (or some people are just plain indifferent), they only understand our being UPSET/sad as "ANGER" (with no EXPLANATION,...as though we "HATE") and are some kind of misfit/sicko.

We then accept/"inherit" that label of "misfit/sicko" and impose crazed illegitimate "ANGER" upon ourselves (driving it inward) instead of realizing that we have legitimate reasons to be sad and upset that things aren't better than this world has to offer (because nobody has ever validated/justified our pain and sufferings).

If you simply come to the realization that there are valid and legitimate reasons for you being UPSET/sad/disappointed in this world of chaos and betrayal (I don't speak very kindly of this world,...for good reason), you will learn to accept yourself and be comfortable with who you are.

A person can only have the ATTITUDE of being "angry" about a situation that is still ACTIVELY being endured because they are still PHYSICALLY/daily trapped in that situation, otherwise you are simply UPSET/sad/annoyed that it happened (even if you still deal with the consequences). You are not mad "AT" a person, you may be mad ABOUT a situation.

It is the same if someone is nosy and asks a question that is not their business, they'll say that they asked because they are "CURIOUS" (an ATTITUDE, not a REASON, the REASON is that they want to start controversy so they can criticize/ridicule/mock,...low self esteem, they need to redeem their conscience/ego).

I have REASON to have the ATTITUDE of being CYNICAL about the world. It is not that I have contempt/hatred for society, it is that I have disappointment that society/the world is not better/harmonious. There is always either a good reason for an attitude or a bad reason.

All of "this relationship stuff" IS a direct result, but it doesn't have to continue to be that way, AND the "results" can actually be "desirable" in future relationships (and "life in general",...you've learned about the world that can be FELT in the heart, and are no longer limited to the world that can be SEEN)...profound.