The first thing to realize is that you're not alone. Unfortunately, rape is more common than previously thought. It has been common down through History.

People tend to be embarrassed and ashamed, so they are afraid to tell anyone and they keep it to themselves. And then there is the other side of the coin. You tell people what happened to you, and some of them are cold, insensitive or idiotic about it.

And then there are those people who are very sensitive and understanding (yes they are out there)

So it's like a double edged sword. You can stay silent, and you feel so different than everyone else and it eats at you. Or you can tell trusted people about it, and sometimes they may surprise you and you feel re-abused all over again.

So it comes down to, who can be trusted? That's what rape does. It takes away your trust. It leaves you with shell shock. Post Traumatic Stress.

Most people don't want to relive the trauma of the rape, so they stay silent. The problem is, this is one reason why rapists have been able to get away with what they've done throughout History. They do their dirty deed and no one tells. So they get away with it one time and they are confidant to do it over and over again.

My teenage daughter knows at least 2 boys that are her friends that this has happened to, you are not alone.

It's NOT your fault. It's the fault of the rapist, so don't be embarrassed or ashamed. If you ever tell anyone what happened to you and they are NOT supportive, then they are not your friend.

I have heard E.F.T. is helpful, or you could find a good therapist, but I would shop around and find a therapist that is of the opposite sex of the person that raped you because it will help you feel more comfortable to talk to them.

It sounds like more than anything you need true friends, not people who will re-abuse you! Just know that there ARE good people out there, but sometimes it takes some time to find them.

Yes, EFT will help. Go to emofree.com. Read all you can, download the the FREE book.

It was not your fault. You were young and didn't know. I myself was molested when I was 5 and it last 2 years. It has caused me many health issues that I'm now dealing with. I'm dealing with my past which is helping the present.

Light and Love

ok sir im sorry to here this but i have worked with many a rape victim here is the only way one can be free of this destruction from within first one must become a christian then they have to forgive the person who done this for the unforgiving leaves a door open for the evil to attack you evil i mean demonic forces who watch you day and night who put the thoughts and feeling into you or increase the bad thoughts and emotions that torment you does this sound crazy ? yes but im a delieverance minister and seen this many times what have you to lose but your torment if you want help you can email me god bless

Rape refers to physical sex without consent. 'Psychological rape' would only be a metaphor.

There is psychological 'abuse' though, such as emotional abuse, neglect, coersion and a variety of other things. Better labels.