Well, I'm impressed! A woman who gets it! Welcome to the "Winner's Club"! Let me be the first one to congratulate you on realizing what a loser the guy was and thinking with your brain instead of emotions. That's tough to do in this age of "I don't want to hurt his feelings...blah, blah, blah". Hurt his feelings...dump him on his A**, baby! You deserve better. Don't ever again settle for mediocre. Your 3-year investment may be the best thing you'll ever experience. Know why? You actually learned WHAT NOT TO LOOK FOR IN A GUY. Go to the movies tonight, and a little dinner...on me.

You get good advises.
Follow your heart and don’t be a “welcome mat”!
Love life is something nobody else can give you the definite direction.
Others aren’t experiencing your feelings. You are.
There are unacceptable facts. Think about those.

Good luck

SF

What growth! You feel bitter now, but do you remember the spring cleaning (laxative) greens the older people used to do by gathering bitter herbs? Yesh, the greens tasted bitter, and the purging/laxative wasn't all that pleasant either, but boy were they stronger and healthier on the other side of that!

It will take consistency to keep this person out of your life. You may feel like making a call. I urge you to flush this person completely out of your life, and then fill up your life with people who will encourage and support you You will find them when you begin to encourage and support yourself.