Question about sobriety 
sober10
17 y
3,335
I have a question, maybe silly, but I drank forever and ever until some years ago, but I wonder if it is true that when you finally become sober that your mentality goes back to the age you drank through most of your days and emotions. I ask because I look at other people my age, and they appear so mature, and so together, and I truly feel and act like I am 15 years younger, although unfortunately, I dont look it. I was just wondering if this is normal, or is it me, or am I just going through mid-life crisis?? Thanks.- Re: Question about sobriety drofinnah
17 y
2,909
This is a reply to # 1,017,575when i went to rehab that is one of the things i remember them saying... that we remain at whatever age we were when we started drinking... but... once we get sober and stay sober we begin to grow again...
when we talk of maturity it is only relevant as to how we feel and act... as we become more and more sober we become more and more sane... as sanity returns we begin to see more clearly our insanities... and as that happens we begin to see that most of our insanities were imposed on us... we were conditioned to think/act/and believe the way we did... for we can more and more clearly see the insanities in the society that reared us... so it eventually becomes more and more a question of how much we can unlearn... or let go of... as the case may be... it is mostly through self examination that we learn more and more of who we truly are... and what life is all about... as opposed to who we thought we were... and how we reacted to outer circumstances rather than being centered within our own being...
don't want to make this too long... because there is much in the big book and the 12 & 12 that goes into great depth/detail... it seems the more years i have been in AA the more and more there is to learn... and i really relish/enjoy big book & step studies...
there's another saying that might be heard around the tables of AA... and that is...
"we walked a long way into the woods... so it is going to be a long walk out"... which simply means to say that it is going to take time... just remember to
"Keep it Simple"...
"Easy Does It"...
"Live and Let Live"...
take care...
God bless...
oh yeas... and remember...
"it's a wonderful day in the neighborhood"...
lol...
;-)
- Re: Question about sobriety sober10
17 y
2,802
This is a reply to # 1,017,586Thank you droffinah! I guess I will always just be behind the times. I have been sober long enough that I feel I have, for the most part, experienced life's complications, joys, and sorrows being sober for years now, but I still recognize on a daily basis, that unless I am looking in the mirror, I feel like I am many years younger than I am, and this may be good in some respect, but I look at my career, and other moms my age, and wonder when will I even come close to catching up, yet I do recognize that age is just a number. Thank you for your response, it was appreciated. and my God bless you too!
- Re: Question about sobriety sober10
17 y
2,802
- Re: Question about sobriety #50348
17 y
2,788
This is a reply to # 1,017,575Yes this is true. I have been around Aa for some time and have only recently begun to see how true it is. Used to think it was sort of cute to say, but OF COURSE I had kept on maturing emotionally and in terms of making choices...but have in year 6 of sobriety come to realize that in fact I am such a teenager when it comes to how to live my life....
- Re: Question about sobriety drofinnah
17 y
2,909
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