No matter how you live your life there is always someone who will not agree or accept your views... 

 Therefore when you come under attack, find out what the reasons are and act accordingly!!   

  Defensiveness is defenseless; when you are criticized for doing  something wrong and it is valid.  a True-ism 

  Therefore any defensiveness on your part is at best just a rationalization yet at worse a lie or falsehood!!

  This is where so many people come to situations of denial and rejection in their lives... Thus you must some to learn not to become defensive when 
   your short coming are brought forth!   

 

 Beware:  Because once you let your emotions rule the situation, you have just about lost the battle for reason and generally will destroy any credibility you may have had! 

   While most of the systems of the world seem very influential, you need not respond to any of these things that only embroil and cause more pain and suffering...  Address the truth and seek to clarify the situation!

 
  When personal confrontations occur respond by looking out for the other persons needs and character...  While you are of course personally responsible for your own character, it does not do any good to try to defend the indefensible or attack another's character!     
 
  The world and Satan will try to get you to focus on you rights instead of your responsibilities... 

  " Anytime a nation, a group or even individuals focus upon their so called rights, at the exclusion of their responsibilities, they are on the path of defeat!  No culture can long withstand any type of self-centered orientation... "   Victory over the Darkness 1990 by  Dr. Neil Anderson

  We are all only responsible for what we did...   Don't try to play the role of being someone's conscience, that is for GOD!   When you attempt to play the role of the Holy Spirit; or the Conscience in another's life you misdirect the battle from GOD toward ourselves... 

 

BTW: We are ill equipped to play GOD or direct other people lives by attempting to direct their conscience!!  Another Secret of the Universe!

  You can hold people accountable for their actions but you should never denigrate their character!   Attempt to express your desires without judging someone!  When you express your wants or emotional needs  with another, try to change any "you" accusations to an "I" message...  This way your non judgmental approach allows the Holy Spirit to deal with the person's conscience!  The other person is now free to respond to your needs instead of becoming defensive against your attacks!!  What a plan, put this into use in your next personal defensive encounter...

  Remember most rejection is due to improper mind set or poor personal attitude, plus the sole desire to play God then attempt to direct other people's lives or to try to cover our own faults!!  Not what GOD had planned for your life!  Maybe this will help you look at rejection in a more positive light...