Deconstruction of a false sense of self is a brave and scary business, but the only business that leads to a true sense of self and a authentic life, any other life is a waste of life, maybe a comfortable life but still a waste, lived in fear and frustration.

An adapted false self is built on the need to be loved and thus cared for, there is nothing wrong in this need except to the adult sense of independence’s and desire to be in total control. As children and baby's we are in the scary position of depending on others on the people who care for us to met our needs. We adapt ourselves inn order to have our needs met. There is no shame in this we are programmed to survive this is a survive mechanism.

We build an identity in order to survive, but the identity we build in order to survive is precisely what ends up destroying us because we our not an identity. We' re not what we identify with or to, we are so much more then that, we are our unique selves and channels of the universe, not to put too much of a cosmic slant on this, but we are a beautiful combination unique wholeness.

Unfortunately in this dysfunctional world, neither of the above virtue are allowed we act out of need and survival and become something which we are not meant to be, we can then spend a life time feeling at dis ease over the struggle to hide and protect what we feel to be are unacceptable selves.

If we are fortunate enough we enter the Dark Night of the Soul we examine our self's in a more honest light and the de-construction of the false sense of self will start to materialise. The point of which we reach a sense of no self is completely terrifying but also totally spiritual in orientation. From here if we are luck, we being the process of building a more authentic self.

Good luck and best thoughts..Moonie