- Commenters, how freakin right on you are!!!!!!!!!!! by annaconda
18 y
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Blog: Wedding Diet
Yesterday's commenters - you win the big bucks. I didn't even last through the evening. Fasting this close to the wedding is NOT A GOOD IDEA.
So I got home yesterday and there was a note from our landlord, who owns our house and the house next door, which he uses for his lake house. Of course they show up for July, he wants to do repairs, he comes into our house with no notice, etc.
He got here the day of my bachelorette party and went into the house, which really unnerved me. So I went over there and asked him to hold off on his repairs (replacing the deck doors) until after my guests had left. So we were expecting him, however, it's still intrusive. So he left a note yesterday and also said YOU'RE RESPONSIBLE FOR MOWING THE LAWN (underlined twice). It's been raining up here a lot and we both work and my fiance just hasn't gotten to it, today was his planned day to mow anyway.
It was just too much for me. I headed straight for the fridge and grabbed the butt of the bakery fresh sourdough loaf, grabbed 1/2 an avocado and some sweet pickles and chowed down.
I also ate two eggs and two pieces of celery.
After that my fiance came home, we got in a fight real quick (all I said was that there was a nasty note from the landlord on the table and that it had caused me to lose it and break my fast and he got so mad at me for "blindsiding him" when he walked in that he went to go read in the bedroom, falling asleep immediately and leaving me to stew till I woke him up at midnight, we made up). Sheesh, I'm not the one who wrote the note. And I was blindsided myself when I walked in. Horrible.
After that I had some more oxypowder - oh yeah I'm feeling all constipated these days whenever I eat anything... and later I had some celery spinach and beet juice. That was good.
I'm basically so freaking high strung right now that I can't handle anything extra, between the wedding, managing all the $$ for the wedding, working at the radio station, dealing with the landlord, making sure everyone has a place to stay during the wedding, getting the programs done and all that... It's just too much. I've got myself wound up so freaking tight I'm about to explode.
So from here on out it's a modified fast. Today I've got carrot ginger juice, 32 oz (I had about 6 oz this morning). I'm going to work out at the gym, go to a friends to get in a few minutes of tanning (disclaimer it's only for the wedding and i'll never do it again, i know it's bad for you) and go home. I think I'm going to eat dinner with my fiance, maybe even HAVE A GLASS OF WINE.
I think juicing during the day is good, maybe having a salad or juice for dinner is good, and if I need some protein damnit I've got to have it because I can't flip when the littlest thing happens. It's no good.
Wow commenters you were right on. RIGHT ON.
To end on a positive note, my brother will be staying with us for a few days before the wedding and it will be the most time I've spent with him since we were very little. I'm really happy he reached out and asked to get involved.
Thanks so much for the support and help and lending an ear (eye) to my venting. I love it here and some day I'll be able to do a stress free juice fast. Until then...
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- Love is what it is all about. Nothing else matters. by Tina Andrews
18 y
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Remember Love is what it is all about. Nothing else matters.
Weddings are about love, not being a size 2 or a size 4 or even a size 14 or size 22 or all those sizes added together. There is not such a big difference between 180 and 160 lbs. It is just a few pounds. Your man should love you as you are now, as you were and whatever size you may become.
You should try to relax, look and feel happy. Don’t starve yourself. You are making an important step in your life. You need energy. You found your soul mate. He may come with some baggage, mother-in-laws, sister-in-laws etc. Just remember to leave the baggage at the door when you check in to your honeymoon suite and your married life’s dwelling. Don't let this tension get between the two of you. Let it slide off your back and land on the floor. Jump on it, stand on it, ignore it. Whatever works for the two of you. Your family may also be driving him nuts or may in the future. It does not matter, unless they are moving in with you.
Try if you can to lock landlords out too. By law they are supposed to call or give written notice before doing repairs. While you are away maybe you should hire someone to mow the lawn or perhaps share the expense with the landlord. (usually once a month or every 3 weeks should suffice) I would write a nice note back to the landlord explaining because of the rain and your hectic schedule it was difficult to mow the lawn, but he should feel at ease you plan as you always have done in the past of keeping up with the yard.
Too bad that there are no laws for in-laws. I hope your phones have caller-id. It is important when necessary to screen calls and visitors. Besides answering machines there is voice mail offered with most phone servivces. Take advantage of this technology. Your life and your commitment to your fiancé takes top priority.
Personally I prefer e-mailing my relatives; at my convenience I let them know what is going on in our lives; we try when we can to schedule dates preferably in public places such as a music concert, a show etc. where a lot of conversation is not required.
If you want to get your mind off your problems visit HarpoLove or Plant Your Dream, I am also working through issues of my own; my Dad, Harpo died in May it comes with a lot of emotional baggage and I have in-law problems as well. I have been married 26 years. There are highs and lows (especially with our 4 children) but no regrets.
Best wishes!
Tina Andrews
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