- On a break. by annaconda
18 y
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Blog: Wedding Diet
Ross & Rachel, anyone?
The trials and tribulations of the future sister in law continue.
Yesterday it was a flurry of semi-conciliatory, semi-attacking emails. Finally I got home and had a long talk with my dad, and with a good friend. It was the good friend who said, you need to take a break. This isn't going anywhere good.
And lo and behold, the thunder clouds rolled away and I saw the blue sky of hope again. So I talked to my fiance, and said I know this is going to be tough for you, but I need to take a month away from her.
We were supposed to go on a trip to NYC, she and I, and I couldn't look to that weekend or think about it without fear and trepidation. 10 hours in the car together? No thanks.
So my fiance said he understood - she's causing so much pain and trouble - he called her the god of war, sowing pestilence and bad vibes wherever she goes. Whatever the cause, whether she is jealous about the wedding or whether she just doesn't like herself, I had to put my foot down and disentangle myself from the situation.
So I have a month of freedom, and it feels like bliss. Now I just have to get away from thinking about her and the situation 24/7, because that's what's been going on at my house for the last many days. Drama.
Aaaaahhh. I've been able to focus on my job for the first time today. I was able to relax my muscles for the first time last night (with the help of a relaxation CD). Fantastic.
I've not done as much raw this week as I should have, but I've not really been emotionally great. I haven't really overeaten, which is good. It seems even when I have what I consider an non-diet meal, I'm still doing well. I'm not gorging, which I used to do all the time.
Yesterday I went to the gym, did 45 minutes of cardio and 30 minutes of weights, including lunges and pushups. It felt great. I'm not sure what I'll do today, I think I'll save a run for tomorrow... but I'm going to a concert tomorrow.
Well we'll see. I'm not stressing about anything. Also, I've been getting comments that I look great. I also yesterday ordered some undergarments for my dress, and with these things on, there aren't going to be any bulges no matter what.
Yay!
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- good for you by ausjulie
18 y
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| that shows you how far you have come- looking after yourself also means making sure you dont let other people treat you badly. i learnt this lesson a long time ago with a very very close friend. she went thru an awful marriage break up and i got stuck in the middle. anyway i had to take a break and just removed myself. i felt like i had lost a wonderful friend but the damage it was doign to me was not worth it. good news is now 3 years down the track we are friends again. we have never talked about it and i dont think it is necessary. i hope for you that you can one day you will have your friend back but right now the break is the best thing for you adn your partner. i wish you much love and happiness.
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- sounds good by ren
18 y
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| Sounds like your future sister in law drank the haterade and is JEALOUS! Plus people who don't love themselves, hate others. You sound like you're on the right track!
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- bye for now by ausjulie
18 y
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| i wanted to say good bye im off home for a while and wont have a lot of computer access. i will be thinking about you and cant wait to see you in your dress. i hope your wedding day is all that you want it to be but more so the first day of the rest of a wonderful life with your man. look after yourself stay strong and dont let others spoil your day. remember to concerntrate on each other on the day and not everyone else. i wish you all the best and much happiness and sunshine. and thanks for all your wonderful support and encouragement. cheers for now. julie
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