My motto is "No sex is better than bad sex!"...and I live it. No guy worth a flip does his wife if she is hurting or doesn't want the sex. Selfish guys will, decent guys won't. If your sex was good before the marriage and now sucks, there's something wrong in your head. If it was lousy before and continues to be lame now in marriage, maybe you or hubby doesn't know the right spot to hit. It's difficult to tell from just one message. It most definately could be you, admit the truth.