Date:   12/17/2014 8:19:09 AM ( 11 y ago)
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To address each individual who has experienced the betrayal of such allegations, I offer my most sincere compassion - being falsely accused can create a lifetime of misery, as we often see in the news. 

There is no simple or easy way to just "let it go" when someone commits such a grievous betrayal, and it takes time, effort, and a lot of discussion to sort it all out.  Why do people do these types of things in the first place?  The answer is that they do them simply because they can.  If someone is willing to falsely accuse another human being of serious crimes, the accuser is 100% disordered and cannot be reasoned with. 

I would strongly urge each person who has had such an experience to seek out a counseling therapist that specializes in trauma.  I type this, frequently, because I believe that any trauma that is life-altering will either evlove into a personal definition, or be made into an event that happened, and is now in the past.  The second outcome occurs very infrequently because it requires a tremendous amount of support, encouragement, and compassion from a network of other human beings, and most people just don't understand how far-reaching false allegations can reach.

Finding a counseling therapist that specializes in trauma might not be as simple as it reads when I type that suggestion.  One might have to try out various counselors until they find one that is dedicated and mature in their counseling techniques and approaches.  One of the indicators of a "mature" counselor would be someone who is practicing in a VERY small environment - either with another counselor, or in their own practice.  Counseling therapists that are practicing in large agencies are typically over-worked, frustrated, and jumping through the hoops to simply get the experience necessary to begin their own practices. 

So, bottom line:  people are falsely accused of crimes, every day, and there is no way to stop disordered people from using/abusing the legal system to see to their own needs.  There isn't.  Family Courts are choked with absurd cases and outrageous claims.......so, accepting that this happens, regardless of why it does, is opening the door to recovery.  Get help.  Get help from whatever resources are available and do not allow the actions of a disordered human being to define who you are. 

No, it's not easy or simple to manage such situations - I know from my own experiences how deeply false allegations can go. 

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