Re: my difficult child. Please offer some insight by Iolite ..... Parenting Support Forum
Date: 11/2/2009 10:57:37 AM ( 15 y ago)
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Because you have a strong willed child, there may be a time when you will have to step in and advocate for her and possibly get her put in another class or another school. An experienced teacher CAN deal with strong willed children. My daughter's 4th grade teacher was a such a teacher. It helped that she too had raised a strong willed child. Because of Linda Lippy, my daughter began to love school again. Her nightmare in first grade is becoming a faded memory. Linda was silly, loving and firm as well as an excellent educator.
If you have repeated problems with your daughter and the teacher, please consider having her moved to another classroom. I wish I had done that instead of making her stick it out until the 2nd semester. At that point, she begged me not to move her. I think she didn't want to leave the familiarity of the classroom or children, even though it would have done her a world of good to get away from that teacher.
Another thing you can do is use bach remedies and making sure she has enough omega oils and Iodine in her diet. If her body is full of things like fluoride, bromide, mercury (stuff that should not be there but is in our environment), it can cause stress to her adrenals and affect her temperament and behavior. Consider a trial of eliminating gluten. A parasite cleanse would be helpful as well. Humaworm makes a children's parasite cleanse. Clarkia can be adjusted for children and ParaGone (most health food stores like vitamin shoppe carry it) has a kids version.
Some symptoms caused by parasites (from http://www.humaworm.com:
MOOD & ANXIETY PROBLEMS – Once again, it’s the toxic metabolic waste produced by the parasites that attack the central nervous system causing: Mood Swings, Nervousness,
Depression, Forgetfulness, Unclear Thinking, Restlessness,
Anxiety, Slow Reflexes
Bromide and fluoride can cause emotionality and anxiety and depression
http://www.breastcancerchoices.org/iodine
http://www.fluoridealert.org
Mercury can cause behavior problems as can gluten sensitivity.
Lastly, I would like to say that I don't think you are a bad mother. You are actively trying to help your daughter, that makes you a good mom. You're young and probably feeling a little insecure. Having a strong willed child does that to you. Your daughter is probably very intelligent and gifted. She's also probably very easily stimulated and when overstimulated prone to misbehavior.
At five, she's just learning self-control. It's going to be hit or miss for a while. Also, it seems like for my daughter that at the 6 month mark (3 1/2, 4 1/2, 5 1/2, 6 1/2 etc) there was a growth spurt physically and developmentally. She seemed to regress in behavior and maturity wise for a little while. I don't know if getting more sleep would have helped or not. Her school start time was 8:05 and she had an extremely difficult time getting to school on time in kindergarten and 1st grade. She simply was not getting enough sleep. I could not get the school to understand that she needed 12 hours of sleep. It was impossible to get her to go to sleep by 7. The earliest I could get her to go to sleep was 8 or 8:30 and by that time she was already missing at least an hour of sleep. When we moved to Richmond, her school started at 9 am, we had a much better school year in 4th and 5th grade. I also started giving her melatonin to help her get ready for sleep and she's now taking iodoral (iodine/potassium iodide).
iolite
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