Date:   9/1/2008 7:14:25 AM ( 16 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1249225

Oh thank you all so much for all your replies!

BlueRose, I am now living in Indonesia.I don't have any family member here, my mom and sis are in the U.S.And yes I've been researching on how to migrate there, but I did'nt know about a reunification visa; thank you so much for informing me about that.

Been there done that, first I want to thank you for your advice. I feel like I have a family whose helping me through this coz I can really feel your concern.I'm really trying to weigh the effect of this marriage on my kids. I mean, if we divorce I know that it's gonna have a tremendous effect on the kids, I know coz I'm a product of a broken home myself.I never really grew up with a father figure, and growing up, it always made me feel insufficient, unloved, unprotected, insecure; exactly what I don't want my kids to feel. But, what their father is doing is nothing less, and I feel is worse coz the mistreatment is coming from the person that's supposed to protect them from all these.

And also, my husband is Chinese but he wasn't born or raised in China, he grew up here in Indonesia from a very wealthy family.I think their wealth was one of the reason that he grew up to be so insensitive and as I'm looking at the narcissism forum, I think he's kind of narcissist too. Coz he's NEVER sorry for all his actions. He would blame me for not teaching the kids well enough that's why he would lash out on the like that. Or he would blame his business partner for getting on his nerves that's why his always irritable.

Been there done that, I always tell him to be more FATHERLY when he scold the kids and not to the point that like the Bible say, "harden their hearts". But as I see it, since the kids are still small, their hearts is not hardening, but crushing ,melting.This time around, he's always the one mentioning about divorce, which I really begin to consider as a good option to protect the kids from any more harm.

Again, thank you so much for your concern. This is the very first post i made here in the curezone.I originally came here to learn about health and I can tel you all that everybody here in curezone has helped me so much on how to take care of my family's health, as my kids has never been to doctor, never took Antibiotics and they're so healthy. Thank you all so much.
 

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