Hello everyone Im having a bit of a problem Ive never really faced before and I was hoping to find some advice. Ive recently started seeing a guy who has been a very good friend of mine for a long time. He was there for me through my last relationship, always giving me advice and being such a good friend. When I went through my breakup he was so supportive.

It was clear that he had liked me for some time, we hooked up one drunken new years night long ago (just kissing, no sex) and he and I have always been somewhat flirty, even when I was in my relationship (nothing innapropriate, just flirty). So when I became single I naturally began spending a lot more of my time with him, and our flirting increased til he was outright making passes at me. We went on a trip to the coast together and it was one of the best times Ive ever had with anyone...one of those perfect days you will remember forever. He had me laughing my ass off all day and it was just complete bliss (and something I very much needed after a terrible past 6 months in my very unhealthy relationship with my ex). I dont know if Ive ever had such a good time with ANYONE, and it was just weird because hes been such a good friend for so long that the comfort/relaxation we have with each other is just automatic, there isnt that weird feeling of having to sorta have "game" or whatever you would call it, this guy has seen me at my very worst and very best and super dorkiest moments and everything in between and he still thinks Im beautiful and sexy.

Well thats the background and now on to the problem. We have attempted sex twice now, and both times he has not been able to get or maintain an erection. The first time he pretty much couldnt get hard at all...I was completely caught off guard by this and confused..I thought it was me but he said it wasnt and he didnt know what it was. He seemed just..freaked out. He was pretty humilated by this because he is the one constantly hitting on me and saying how much he wants me, etc. I figured it was just anxiety and didnt worry about it.

Yesterday we went on a date and it was one of the best days Ive had once again. Every day is like that with him, he makes me feel so....incredibly wonderful would be an understatement. When we came back to my house I was just so excited and wanted him so bad. I didnt think it would happen again because it was much less akward this time and our chemistry was just right there. But he wasnt hard one again (Every guy Ive been with before has been like a rock before we even get to the stage of clothing removal, so Im so not used to this). I went down on him and was able to get him hard, which was great, but as soon as he even started putting the condom on, it was gone. So then I tried getting him hard again and putting the condom on myself, which kinda worked but as soon as he moved like an inch to come towards me, there it went again.

I got really discouraged and depressed then, Im begining to feel like he doesnt want me as much as he thinks, it seems like his mind is saying one thing and his body is saying another? We talked about it and I asked him if it was because he was nervous and he said yes he is nervous...and I was like "why its just ME" and he said something like "thats just it, its you. You are the most beautiful girl that has ever given me a chance" (he thinks he is like so ugly compared to me or something). I told him, he doesnt need to be nervous, he doesnt need to worry about impressing me or anything, he already has impressed me, he has already won me over. All I want is to feel him inside of me, I dont care about anything else.

Has anyone ever dealt with this before and is there some trick or something to getting it to work? Maybe the next time should I not even worry about doing the deed and just go down on him? I dont like oral (recieving) much so there is little he can do for me in that way. I dont like being fingered either so sex is like it for me as far as what I like, but I can go without it for awhile if I have to. I think hes worth it, and worth working on it, I just dont know where to start...? Any advice? Thanks for reading sorry so long!